The Honeybee's Lifestyle

Tag: happiness

  • Live Life NOW!

    Hello Honeybees,

    This last year has really taught me some lessons. Thankfully the lessons were taught lessons instead of bought lessons. Bought lessons can be very expensive both emotionally and financially.  One lesson that I am taking to heart is to enjoy life everyday. For the purpose of this post I’m talking about enjoying material things. I’ll address the other ways I enjoy life outside of the material in future post.



    In July I will celebrate year 54. This year is significant to me because my mom passed when she was 54. I think about where I am in my life vs where she was at the same age. We are both single parents, hers by death and mine by divorce (kind of the same thing…just kidding). We both were homeowners (although I downsized a few years ago). Also, neither one of us at this point had ever lived alone (I’m working on emptying my nest but no real rush).

    I think about how when cleaning out her closet there were clothes that still had tags on them. I think about how she waited until she felt that I was on solid footing before she decided to truly enjoy & embrace life. She was on a Cole Haan binge because I was working at Nike & they owned Coke Hahn at the time (discount!). Our last shopping trip together would be her last shopping trip ever. That night she would suffer the fist of several strokes.

    She took me to JCPenny’s at the Mall of Memphis to buy me maternity clothes. I fussed the whole time, because I could afford to buy my own clothes, until the cashier said “baby let your momma spoil you”. I’m glad that my my well being was so important to her but at the same time I wished that she would’ve been a little bit more selfish and put her happiness first.

    So at this point in my life I’m all about spoiling ME and having some of the things that bring me joy. Of course this is all within reason because like her I want to leave a legacy for my children & grandchildren, but I also don’t want to wait until it’s too late. I deserve to live my life NOW and to enjoy it NOW. This year I will obtain 3 luxury to me items. I haven’t decided on which 3 but one will be a purse and one will be a coffee maker. These might not sound like much to you but to me they have deep meaning. These items will represent me living, embracing and enjoying life. So whatever it is that you keep putting off…STOP and do it NOW!

    Happy Birthday Momma!! Your baby is still listening and learning and enjoying life.

    Beewisdom- What is bad about luxury as long as you can afford it? – Diana Dors

  • Speaking My Language

    Hello Honeybees,

    It’s Valentine’s Day and love is in the air.

    I’m sure by now you have heard of The 5 Love Language book and quiz. I have read the book and taken the quiz and it always comes back the same…. My first love language is Acts of Service. For me actions speak louder than words. It doesn’t have to be anything overly dramatic or huge but it does need to come from the heart.

    So on this February 14th in the year 2020 I am sharing a few ways to speak my love language:

    A love note just because
    Running my bath water
    Packing my lunch

    All things car related, gas, air in tires, washing
    Doing the grocery shopping
    A random kiss
    Watching a movie together
    Going to a game together or watching a game on t.v.

    Bring me a glass of wine and a single flower stem at the end of a long day!!!!

    Taking the Love Language quiz together and talking about how to speak each others language would be an awesome way to connect on this day of love.

    I hope that someone is speaking your love language today.

    Do you know your love language? Do you know your partners love language?

    Beewisdom- Love doesn’t erase the past, but it makes the future different-Gary Chapman

     

     

     

     

  • Self Love Day with Dr. Jamie

    Hello Honeybees,

    One of the ways that I practice self love is by surrounding myself with women who inspire me and lift me up. On Sunday I was fortunate enough to experience self love at its best. Dr. Jamie Hardy is the founder of The Fab Gathering, The Fab Gathering is a safe space to let down your guard and to receive support and tools to elevate your health and your life. This FAB gathering was all about self love.

    A little back story. I started following Dr. Jamie after meeting her at a blogger workshop. Shortly after our meeting she hosted a Fab Gathering at Char restaurant but I waited to late to get my ticket. That was not the case this time.

    Dr. Jamie, a pharmacist by trade, is on a mission to help women to be fit, FABulous, and fulfilled by giving their food, actions, and beliefs a makeover. She encourages women to live a healthy lifestyle without pills. Yes you read that right, a pharmacist trying to get us off the meds.

    The day began with a panel of beautiful black educated women dropping gems on everything from navigating storms to self image and of course saying NO.

    Melody Hubbard-Robinson dropped the first gem. During the introductions when most people tell who they are and what they do for a living, Melody said: “My job is….. but my purpose is….” I love that because we are more than our jobs. We all have a purpose and you are blessed if they are the same.

    Dr. Kristen Walker let us know that if self care becomes stressful then you aren’t doing it right.

    Kim Cox Esq. reminded us that you always have options. Don’t be afraid to take the chance to have joy.

    Dr. Audrey Townsel dropped on of the most important gems of all about dealing with other people. When pouring into other people make sure that they can pour back into you.

    I told you these ladies were fierce and I received every word of it.

    After the panel it was time to hydrate because Dr. Jamie knew that we were gonna need it. Twana Johnson got us up and moving. We did a “quick” 7 minutes of cardio to get our heart rate up. 30 minutes a day is all we need to get us started & to help us stay fit. Twana’s gem was “You can catch someones cold but you can’t catch good health” That my friends is on you.

    After getting our groove on we hit the mat, the yoga mat that is. My favorite yogi, Jackie O lead our practice. I am always in a calmer state of mind after yoga with Jackie.

    Dr. Jamie then talked to us about the important benefits of journaling and introduced us to her new soon to be released Self Love Kit. Head over to The Fab Gathering website for more details.

    As promised we had a healthy and delicious lunch. I was full but not stuffed. A perfect combination.

    This was the perfect way to spend part of my Sunday. I was so inspired by all of the women. I am so happy that I had the chance to experience Self Love Day with the Fab Gathering.

    Job well done Dr. Jamie.

     

    Beewisdom- If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete. ~ Buddha