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- Thank You
  
  Posted at 5:30 am by The Honeybee, on November 20, 2019
  Hello Honeybees,
  
  Quick question….. When do you put up your Christmas tree? Growing up we didn’t put up our tree until December 15th. Not sure why but that was the date. As I got older and was able to decorate myself I would put up the tree on December 1st. When I started having kids I moved to the day after Thanksgiving. This year I’m shooting for the day before Thanksgiving, if not it will definitely be the day after.
  
  I like for Thanksgiving to have its own special place. For me Thanksgiving is not about the “story” of the pilgrims breaking bread with the Indians, but about breaking bread with my family and friends. To me it’s about who made the mac & cheese and who is getting their first shot at making a real dish for everyone to judge. It’s family coming together when it’s not a funeral. It’s about meeting new boyfriends & girlfriends, wondering if they will make it till Christmas.
  
  It’s about being grateful for where we are right now and what we have come through so far this year. It’s remembering those we have lost and being thankful for the impact that they had on our lives.
  
  I have a lot to be thankful for this year. Last year I was just recovering from my second major surgery in 3 months. Now I am healthy, happy and whole. My oldest is slowly finding his way in life. My youngest is excelling in college away from home. My family loves and supports me and my friends are truly the bomb.
  
  I am also thankful for you. Yes YOU!! You didn’t have to stop by my little piece of the internet but you did and for that I say THANK YOU. To put some action behind my words I am doing a giveaway. For anyone that signs up for the blog (enter your email address under the Follow Blog via Email box) you will be entered to win a $50 Target gift card and a box of Merci chocolates. If you have already signed up (via email), then you will automatically be entered. Just a small token of my appreciation for you.
  
  What are you thankful for?
  
  Beewisdom-Silent gratitude isn’t very much use to anyone. -Gertrude Stein
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  Posted in LIFESTYLE | 0 Comments | Tagged Gratefulness, Gratitude, memphis blogger, thankfulness
- Advice To A Younger Honeybee
  
  Posted at 5:30 am by The Honeybee, on November 6, 2019
  Hello Honeybees,
  
  If you follow me on IG you know that I attended Karleen Roy’s inaugural Owning The Block event. I enjoyed seeing Memphis come together to support one of its own. The guest for the event was Myleik Teele. SN: Myleik has been on my vision board for a few years & I got to meet her & of course take a picture.
  
  During the event Karleen asked Myleik what advice she would to her 20 year old self. It got me to thinking about what I would tell my 20 year old self. Before my 20’s were over I was a married college graduate working in corporate America.
  
  If there were some words of wisdom that I would give to a younger Honeybee it would start with this:
  
  Although you took the long route to graduation you did it. Don’t hold on to the fact that it took you longer, celebrate the joy that you finished. In taking that long route in college keep going and get that Masters degree. Don’t let 20 years go by.
  
  Live on your own before you get married. You went from your mother to your husband. You needed the time on your own to mature just a little bit more. You needed the time to learn to stand on your own two feet.
  
  Travel, go see the world! I mean the WORLD! Leave the USA and enjoy yourself.
  
  Save, Save, Save and Save some more. Yes you were wise to get in your 401k in your 20’s but you need to save a little more on the side. You need to get in the habit of saving.
  
  Embrace that “skinny” women that you are and don’t listen to the haters. You look good just the way you are. One day you’ll wish that you were still trying to gain weight. Get in the habit of exercising so that it becomes a way of life.
  
  Finally, GO FOR IT!!! You wanted to work in corporate communications but when you had the opportunity to meet with the bank president one on one you didn’t capitalize on it because you didn’t know how. Find a mentor, they could’ve helped you navigate this better.
  
  I’m thankful for the lessons that I learned in my 20’s because they helped to shape the future me and I actually did LEARN something.
  
  One day I’ll share what I would tell my 30 year old self because those years were truly pivotal.
  
  What advice would you give your 20 year old self? Leave me a comment below.
  
  Beewisdom- Remember yourself as a little girl, she is counting on you to protect her.
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  Posted in GROWING UP BEE, LIFESTYLE | 2 Comments | Tagged Empowerment, Future, Lessons, memphis blogger, Purpose
- I Messed Up
  
  Posted at 5:30 am by The Honeybee, on October 2, 2019
  Hello Honeybees,
  
  Saturday I was a plus one for Audacity Fest 2019. My blogger boo @mocha_divas had a press pass for the fest and invited me to join her. I agreed to go without doing my due diligence on the event. That was a big mistake on my part. Y’all I messed up. Big time!
  
  The Audacity Fest is a festival that celebrates black travel and the fact that it was in Memphis was a pretty big deal. Seeing so many people of color come together to share their experiences & best practices was simply beautiful. There were sessions that catered to everything from culinary travel, adventure travel and luxury travel. Of course the highlight for me was budget travel. The festival was 3 days in various locations around the city. They showed Memphis a lot of love.
  
  I finally got a passport this year and started a savings account using my digit app for some international travel for next year. So I’m already in a travel mood. Had I been better prepared for Audacity Fest I would’ve been more selective in choosing which sessions to attend & being better prepared for retaining the information.
  
  Thanks to the power of Instagram I was able to see what I missed. My lesson learned here was to be knowledgeable about events before I attend them, even if I’m not obligated to post about them. I missed out on some great opportunities and possible connections because I didn’t do my homework.
  
  Next years Audacity Fest will be in New York. Maybe just maybe I’ll be able to attend on a budget using some of the information that I learned.
  
  Beewisdom- Adventure is worthwhile – Aesop
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  Posted in LIFESTYLE | 1 Comment | Tagged Festivals, Goals, Memphis, memphis blogger, Travel
- Forgive Yourself
  
  Posted at 5:30 am by The Honeybee, on September 18, 2019
  Hello Honeybees,
  
  We are all a work in progress. No one has it all together no matter what their Instagram feed or Facebook page says. I know that I am definitely a serious work in progress. I’m working on me! One of the major things that I am working on is forgiving myself.
  
  The weird thing is that I will forgive, not necessarily forget, a person that has done me wrong. But when it comes to me forgiving me that’s where I have a block. I hold myself to a much higher standard than I do other people because I can only control me & my actions.
  
  I’ve made some huge mistakes in my past that I am still trying to forgive myself for. I have asked God for forgiveness & I believe that He has forgiven me, so why am I still holding on? The holding on is keeping me from moving forward. I need to leave all of that baggage in the past where it belongs. Y’all that stuff is heavy, too heavy for me to keep carrying. It takes up to much mental & emotional space. I need that space to enjoy my NOW.
  
  So as you are reading this know that I am one gigantic step closer to forgiving myself, to letting the past go and moving forward. From this day forward I will no longer entertain what I use to do. I will only entertain what I do now and in the future. I’m leaving the past where it belongs….in the past. I forgive ME!
  
  What past mistake are you holding on to? What’s stopping you from letting them go?
  
  Beewisdom-“Never forget that to forgive yourself is to release trapped energy that could be doing good work in the world.” -D. Patrick Miller
  
  Photos: Desiree @mocha_divas
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  Posted in LIFESTYLE | 1 Comment | Tagged Baggage, Encouragement, Forgiveness, memphis blogger, Self care
- Position Yourself
  
  Posted at 5:30 am by The Honeybee, on September 10, 2019
  Hello Honeybees,
  
  Recently I was listening to Soledad O’Brien speak on a podcast about her leaving CNN. She spoke about how they never really “fired” her but they offered her a different position that she felt was not a good fit for her. To her credit she was able to walk away from CNN because she had financially positioned herself to do so. While working at CNN she was frugal with her money so that she was able to make better decisions based on what she wanted to do vs. what she had to do.
  
  We’ve all been there. And there is being somewhere because you feel like you have to. Being in a relationship because you feel like you have to. If I leave this relationship then I’ll be alone. If I leave this job then how will I survive? Because let’s face it, we all have bills to pay.
  
  Positioning yourself means giving yourself options. It’s a very helpless feeling knowing that other people literally hold your destiny in their hands. Hopefully they will have your best interest at heart but then again they may not. It’s a crap shoot.
  
  So how do you position yourself?
  
  Financially- living below your means. Have a nest egg so that if you need to make a decision you are making it from a point of substance and not survival.
  
  Skills- work on improving your skill set so that you have more to offer. If you only know how to do one thing, then one thing is all that you can do.
  
  Find your side hustle- this goes along with your finances AND improving your skills. That side hustle can help you to save. That side hustle can be your additional skill. This combination can be life saving.
  
  Network- get to know people outside of your circle, that includes having a mentor. People who know you & your worth. People who can and will advocate for you, even when you are NOT in the room.
  
  I encourage you to position yourself so that when you are ready to move, you can…..just like that!
  
  What part of your life needs a position change?
  
  Beewisdom-“Proper positive positioning is the key to experiencing miracles.” Edmond Mbiaka
  
  Photos by kaughtbykaete.com
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