The Honeybee's Lifestyle

Tag: happiness

  • The Strong One

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    Hello Honeybees,

    There is always someone in every friendship who is the one that everyone goes to for advice. The one that always seems to have it together. The one that is always happy. The one that always has a word of encouragement when you are feeling down.

    The STRONG one.

     

    We all know that person.

    You might be that person

    There is nothing wrong with being that person

    Where would we be without that person?

    But I ask the question………. Where does this person go for encouragement? Who do they turn to when they are down? Who helps to lift their spirits?

    Here’s a transparent moment.. at the beginning of November 2017, I had a week where I was just not myself. It was hard for me to find anything to smile about and mean it. I smiled but it was not genuine. I was feeling very overwhelmed by life. I didn’t reach out to anyone to talk about it. I felt like I had to deal with it on my own. I didn’t feel like anyone wanted to listen and I also felt a little guilty about feeling the way that I was feeling. My life is truly blessed & I am grateful for it. There are people praying for this kind of life. It’s not lavish by any means but I know that it could be a whole lot worse. I gave myself a week to get it together and if I was still feeling the same way I was going to reach out to someone. We must recognize when we need help and not be afraid to ask for it. By the end of the week I was feeling like my old self. The pity party was over.

    I’m sharing this because NO ONE around me knew what I was going through.  No one knew how I was feeling. We never know what people are going through. We never know what burdens they carry. We sometimes forget that even the strong need help.

    Dress: INC- Sugarplum Consignment, Shoes:Impo-TJMaxx

    I encourage you to reach out to your friends and check on them, especially the strong ones. They might not open up on the first call or text but for them to know that someone is thinking about them and that someone cares can be the lift that they need.

    Beewisdom- Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love- Brené Brown

     

     

     

  • The Strong One

    Hello Honeybees,

    There is always someone in every friendship who is the one that everyone goes to for advice. The one that always seems to have it together. The one that is always happy. The one that always has a word of encouragement when you are feeling down.

    The STRONG one.

    We all know that person.

    You might be that person

    There is nothing wrong with being that person

    Where would we be without that person?

    But I ask the question………. Where does this person go for encouragement? Who do they turn to when they are down? Who helps to lift their spirits?

    Here’s a transparent moment.. at the beginning of November 2017, I had a week where I was just not myself. It was hard for me to find anything to smile about and mean it. I smiled but it was not genuine. I was feeling very overwhelmed by life. I didn’t reach out to anyone to talk about it. I felt like I had to deal with it on my own. I didn’t feel like anyone wanted to listen and I also felt a little guilty about feeling the way that I was feeling. My life is truly blessed & I am grateful for it. There are people praying for this kind of life. It’s not lavish by any means but I know that it could be a whole lot worse. I gave myself a week to get it together and if I was still feeling the same way I was going to reach out to someone. We must recognize when we need help and not be afraid to ask for it. By the end of the week I was feeling like my old self. The pity party was over.

    I’m sharing this because NO ONE around me knew what I was going through.  No one knew how I was feeling. We never know what people are going through. We never know what burdens they carry. We sometimes forget that even the strong need help.

    Dress: INC- Sugarplum Consignment, Shoes:Impo-TJMaxx

    I encourage you to reach out to your friends and check on them, especially the strong ones. They might not open up on the first call or text but for them to know that someone is thinking about them and that someone cares can be the lift that they need.

    Beewisdom- Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love- Brené Brown

     

     

     

  • Apples & Oranges

    Hello Honeybees,

    In my March lessons learned post I talked about people not being who they POST to be. I received a lot of positive feedback from that lesson. People understand that sentiment. I’ve heard people say that they don’t follow certain people because it makes them feel “unhappy” about their own lives. To that I say if it makes you that unhappy then it is absolutely in your best interest to not follow. But I also say that you should not compare your apples to their oranges

    Some will share the good & the not so good, while others will only share the good. If you are only seeing the good then you by into the “they have the perfect life ” but come on now…we all know that no one has a perfect life.

    Their apple tree is not always bearing fruit. Just like your orange tree is not always bearing oranges. There is always a harvest time.  There is always a time where you must pick the fruit to make room for the next.  It’s that time between the picking season & the next harvest that people don’t share.

    Here are 3 ways to help you move past comparing your apples to other peoples oranges:

    1. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

    No matter where you are in your life you have something to be grateful for. You may not have the million dollar house or the fancy car or the smartest kids but what you do have is a place to sleep, a car that goes from point A to point B and kids that are alive & healthy. Do not discount that. Count it all joy!

    1. BE OK WITH IMPERFECTION

    It’s ok to NOT be perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect person. God made only one YOU. You are unique. Own it and move forward being the best you that you can be.

    1. FOCUS ON YOUR JOURNEY

    Your starting point could be someone’s middle or end. Focus on where you want to go and the steps that you need to take to get there. You lose sight of your goal and precious time comparing your journey to others.

    Have I fallen victim to the comparison game…..of course I have and will again BUT it’s acknowledging it, letting it go and refocusing that is important. I totally use my social media “family” as inspiration, not to keep up but to keep it moving.

    Belinda

    Who are some of your social media inspirational influencers?

    Beewisdom- Don’t compare yourself with anyone else in the world. If you do you are insulting yourself- dailyquotes.com