The Honeybee's Lifestyle

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  • Apples & Oranges

    Hello Honeybees,

    In my March lessons learned post I talked about people not being who they POST to be. I received a lot of positive feedback from that lesson. People understand that sentiment. I’ve heard people say that they don’t follow certain people because it makes them feel “unhappy” about their own lives. To that I say if it makes you that unhappy then it is absolutely in your best interest to not follow. But I also say that you should not compare your apples to their oranges

    Some will share the good & the not so good, while others will only share the good. If you are only seeing the good then you by into the “they have the perfect life ” but come on now…we all know that no one has a perfect life.

    Their apple tree is not always bearing fruit. Just like your orange tree is not always bearing oranges. There is always a harvest time.  There is always a time where you must pick the fruit to make room for the next.  It’s that time between the picking season & the next harvest that people don’t share.

    Here are 3 ways to help you move past comparing your apples to other peoples oranges:

    1. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

    No matter where you are in your life you have something to be grateful for. You may not have the million dollar house or the fancy car or the smartest kids but what you do have is a place to sleep, a car that goes from point A to point B and kids that are alive & healthy. Do not discount that. Count it all joy!

    1. BE OK WITH IMPERFECTION

    It’s ok to NOT be perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect person. God made only one YOU. You are unique. Own it and move forward being the best you that you can be.

    1. FOCUS ON YOUR JOURNEY

    Your starting point could be someone’s middle or end. Focus on where you want to go and the steps that you need to take to get there. You lose sight of your goal and precious time comparing your journey to others.

    Have I fallen victim to the comparison game…..of course I have and will again BUT it’s acknowledging it, letting it go and refocusing that is important. I totally use my social media “family” as inspiration, not to keep up but to keep it moving.

    Belinda

    Who are some of your social media inspirational influencers?

    Beewisdom- Don’t compare yourself with anyone else in the world. If you do you are insulting yourself- dailyquotes.com

  • Road Trip

    Hello Honeybees,

    I do not like long car trips, put me on a plane any day.

    I haven’t always disliked long car rides but as I have gotten older it’s getting harder to sit & ride for long periods.  However, last weekend I did just that. Rikki & I hoped in the car and headed to Hammond, Louisiana. It was great to have some time catching up on life and reminiscing about the good ole days .  As we enjoy our year of 50 we took a road trip with a purpose. One of Rikki’s line sister’s daughter was joining our illustrious sisterhood of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. and we wanted to be a part of the ceremony.  That is one of the best reasons ever for any kind of trip.

    Southeastern Louisiana University, is located in Hammond, LA about 30 minutes outside of New Orleans. We left bright & early Saturday morning, made a pit stop in Jackson, MS and headed into Hammond. Now you know we couldn’t be that close to New Orleans and not pay a visit. After a 20 min rest at our hotel we hit the road again and rolled into NOLA.

    Rikki is a graduate of Xavier University in New Orleans.  I haven’t seen the campus post Katrina & it was an honor to see the growth.  It was nice to see this HBCU thriving.

    The plan was to hit the French Quarter but we didn’t know that this was the same weekend as the French Quarter Festival.  Traffic was a nightmare so we found a quaint café on St. Charles and enjoyed drinks & dinner.

    Sunday was all about sisterhood. It was time to welcome Payton into the land of Alpha Kappa Alpha. Congratulations to the newest Sorors of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc., Lambda Omicron Chapter.

    Love these ladies of the Epsilon Tau Chapter of Xavier University. The true meaning of sisterhood. This is what 30 years of service to all mankind looks like.

    After the luncheon we hit the road headed back to Memphis.  It was so nice to just get away if only for 48 hours. I realized as I was writing this post that Rikki & I never stopped to take a picture together. Guess that means that we were living in the moment.

    I have one more planned road trip in June and I’m kind of looking forward to it. Meet me in St. Louis.

    Who is ready to hit the road?

    Belinda

    Beewisdom-Louise, no matter what happens, I’m glad I came with you. (Thelma & Louise 1991)

  • 3 Lessons Learned In March

    Hello Honeybees,

    Spring has finally sprung!  Although it is an allergy nightmare I’m enjoying the nice weather. It will be hot soon enough. As we move into this new season I’m sharing the lessons that I learned in March.

    Lesson 1

    Life moves on with or without you.

    Do you realize that Q1 is gone?  Remember the goals you set for 2017, yeah those…. Where are you? What have you accomplished?  You do realize that YOU have to put in the work. It’s not too late to start but you must start. Starting can be hard. The first step is always the hardest but if you want it is bad enough you will press go.

    We have 3 more quarters to go..in my MARTIN voice….”Get ta steppin”

    Lesson 2

    Surround yourself with young minds.

    It makes my heart happy when young women, the 30 somethings, think that I am close to their age.  This happens all the time and it makes me smile EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I love being around younger people. They challenge my thought process and they keep me in the know about what is happening. They inspire me to do more and be better. They make me feel that it’s never too late. Age is both mental and physical.

    Lesson 3

    Don’t believe the social media hype.

    I know you’ve heard the saying “Everyone is not who they POST to be”.  We are human & we always want to show our best side. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s your page, wall, pic etc. It’s your right to pick and choose what you share. On the flip side, for those that are following it’s up to you to not buy into the hype. It’s ok to take some inspiration from your social media friends but it’s not ok to compare yourself to them. You are You and you should be the best you that you can be.

     

    What did you learn in March?

    Belinda 

    Beewisdom- I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn- Maya Angelou