The Honeybee's Lifestyle

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Greatest Love Of All
Hello Honeybees,

The month of February is usually focused on love and most of us automatically think of love in a romantic sense. Which is only natural but there is one love that must be achieved before any other kind of love can reach its full potential.

That love is SELF LOVE.

Loving yourself sounds like a no brainer but for some people it is not an easy task. If you have never been encouraged to love yourself or if you’ve never had people show you love just because you exist or because you are important to them, then it’s hard to understand self-love.

Loving yourself means not accepting less than you deserve in any situation or relationship. It means saying no to things and people that don’t have your best interest at heart.

Loving yourself first and foremost is the ultimate meaning of self-love. Putting yourself first is not being selfish it’s one of the highest forms of self-love.

Here are a few steps to help you practice a little or hopefully a lot of self-love:

Focus on being someone who loves! When you give love or show love it comes back to you. You attract what you put out.

Act on what you need rather than what you want! Turn away from things that get you in trouble or keep you stuck in the past. That includes people & things. Make sure your needs are met before your wants.

Practice good self-care! Take care of your temple. When you put in the work you feel better about you.

Challenge negative thoughts about yourself! – You are not perfect but guess what, no one is. Try not to entertain or internalize negative thoughts. Easier said than done. When negative thoughts come, push them out with something positive.

Set boundaries & Protect yourself! – This includes people and activities. But also make sure you are bringing the right people into your life.

Forgive yourself! – Don’t carry the guilt of the past. You learned the lesson, take heed and move on Martha, move on!

Live intentionally! – Live life with purpose and feel good about that purpose.

I hope that we all practice self-love EVERYDAY! How do you practice self-love?

Beewisdom- “Self-love, self-respect, self-worth: There’s a reason they all start with ‘self.’ You can’t find them in anyone else.” ~Unknown
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February 22, 2019
It’s Not That Deep
Hello Honeybees,

My coworkers hear me say this A Lot 😊 “It’s not that deep”

I take the same advice in my personal life. I do everything in my power to not let the little things & little people get me off track. It’s not to say that whatever I’m talking about is not important but think about it, how important is it really?

Will whatever “it” is cause someone harm? Will a life be forever changed in a negative way because I’m stressed or worried about whatever “it” is? If I’m late for a meeting will the world stop? I don’t think so. If I can’t complete something right then, are there dire consequences? I doubt it. Especially if you bring it to me last minute. If my son can’t get the Nintendo Switch, I’m not worried about it. He has a nice roof over his head, food to eat & clothes on his back. Getting that game “is not that deep.”

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about being responsible as a parent & an employee but what I’m not gonna do is put more pressure on myself for something that can wait or be completed at a later time. My mental & physical health are very important to me. I want to be both a happy parent & a happy employee and adopting the “its not that deep” attitude helps me to maintain that balance.

Dress- Old Navy clearance, Shoes-!!!!!!!!! ,Purse- Cole Haan Photos: Kim Thomas

So the next time you are stressing about something ask yourself “Is it really THAT deep?”

Beewisdom- If you treat every situation as a life and death matter, you’ll die a lot of times.–Dean Smith
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June 20, 2018
Mindfulness
Hello Honeybees,

What does the word MINDFULNESS mean to you?

Last month I attended a seminar hosted by Methodist Lebonuer Hospital. The guest speaker was ABC news correspondent Dan Harris. Dan talked about the time he had a panic attack on live television. He had become so overwhelmed with life and work that his body, mind and spirit started to betray him. After seeking help for his panic attack Dan learned the importance of meditation. He shares his story in his book 10% Happier. It’s on my nightstand. I’ll let you know what I think in a later post.

Most of us don’t reach our breaking point on national t.v. but we all can reach that breaking point. As I begin the next century of my life, yes I said next because I’m claiming 50 more years, I have a lot of moving pieces. To help me cope with all of these moving parts I have started meditating. I meditate in the mornings before I say my morning prayers. I typically meditate before my morning prayers because it helps me to clear out all the thoughts that try to interrupt my quiet time. I can go to the Lord with a calm spirit ready to receive Him in.

I use these apps to help me when I want a guided meditation.

I also like to do yoga. Yoga is a great way for me to relax, engage and exercise. It is a great release. One of the best things about yoga to me is the community. Practicing yoga with a group brings about a sense of belonging & harmony. If you are looking for a yoga class in Memphis be sure to check out my friend Jackie O!

Jackie has several different way for you to connect on the mat:

Yoga 4 Life is a beginner-friendly class that nurtures the spirit, mind & body with a focus on mindful breathing, stretching, body awareness & relaxation. Each Wednesday, 6-7 pm at Co-Work Memphis, 902 Cooper St., 38104. Pay what you can love offering accepted. Sapphire Yogi Jackie O on Facebook for class & event updates.

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Mindfulness – Knowing what’s going on in your head and not acting on it

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Yoga Honeys is a Memphis-based health & wellness group for women of color specializing in beginners yoga with a focus on restoration and healing. Monthly class & event schedule available on the Yoga Honeys Facebook page. Group is by membership request.

I encourage you to stop and take some time to center yourself. Take some time to connect with your inner you. Try meditating and or yoga. The results can be life changing. Your mind, body & spirit will thank you for it.

Namaste

Belinda

Beewisdom- “In today’s rush, we all think too much — seek too much — want too much — and forget about the joy of just being.” ~Eckhart Tolle
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March 23, 2017