The Honeybee's Lifestyle

Tag: success

  • Position Yourself

    Hello Honeybees,

    Recently I was listening to Soledad O’Brien speak on a podcast about her leaving CNN. She spoke about how they never really “fired” her but they offered her a different position that she felt was not a good fit for her. To her credit she was able to walk away from CNN because she had financially positioned herself to do so. While working at CNN she was frugal with her money so that she was able to make better decisions based on what she wanted to do vs. what she had to do.

    We’ve all been there. And there is being somewhere because you feel like you have to. Being in a relationship because you feel like you have to. If I leave this relationship then I’ll be alone. If I leave this job then how will I survive? Because let’s face it, we all have bills to pay.

    Positioning yourself means giving yourself options. It’s a very helpless feeling knowing that other people literally hold your destiny in their hands. Hopefully they will have your best interest at heart but then again they may not. It’s a crap shoot.

    So how do you position yourself?

    Financially- living below your means. Have a nest egg so that if you need to make a decision you are making it from a point of substance and not survival.

    Skills- work on improving your skill set so that you have more to offer. If you only know how to do one thing, then one thing is all that you can do.

    Find your side hustle- this goes along with your finances AND improving your skills. That side hustle can help you to save. That side hustle can be your additional skill. This combination can be life saving.

    Network- get to know people outside of your circle, that includes having a mentor. People who know you & your worth. People who can and will advocate for you, even when you are NOT in the room.

    I encourage you to position yourself so that when you are ready to move, you can…..just like that!

    What part of your life needs a position change?

    Beewisdom-“Proper positive positioning is the key to experiencing miracles.” Edmond Mbiaka

     

    Photos by kaughtbykaete.com 

  • Digit

    Hello Honeybees,

    One influencer that moved me to action was Memphis blogger Andrea Fenise. Andrea started a series of post about her savings journey. It’s a VERY personal account of how she is saving. She shares the ups & the downs. This got me to thinking more about my saving habits & how I could make them better.

     

    One way for me to save is if I never see the money and I can’t have easy access to it. I have $50 automatically go into an account that is managed by my Ameriprise financial adviser. It’s a slow and steady way for me to build. I don’t see it & in order for me to access it I have to call him. I know if I call him he’s going to ask me all kinds of questions like; Why do I need the money? Saying I want to buy a pair of shoes or a purse is not gonna cut it. It’s his job to help me not make dumb financial decisions. He keeps me accountable and I’m okay with that.

     

     

    Another way that I’m saving is by using the Digit app. Y’all this has been a game changer for me. Digit takes money out of your linked account and puts it into a rainy day account. I also set up another account for an August trip. So it pulls money daily and puts into each account. Now I was scared to have money automatically come out of my account like this and daily at that! Whew chile the anxiety!! Remember that other $50, yeah I can’t have too many things on auto. But the beauty of this is that Digit “learns” your spending habits. It also lets you set a pause limit. So if your linked account falls below a certain amount Digit won’t transfer any money.

     

    If your account gets to a threshold that you set, Digit will transfer money from your Rainy Day account back to your linked account. Another of my things about the app is that it lets you know you balance on your linked account and it tells you why. I get a text that says MLGW cleared today for $100 and your balance is now $1,010. You also have the flexibility to move money back into your account when needed.

     

     

    I will say that having Digit is helping me to stay on my spending toes. Having a constant reminder of how & where I’m spending just what I needed.

     

    If you want to try Digit use my link for the referral. They will give you $5 for signing up. https://digit.co/r/bJBn40_g9V?ad&twb=true

     

    No this is not sponsored. Just like Andrea got me to thinking about my savings, I want you to do the same. Let’s all save, build and grow together.

     

     

    Beewisdom- Don’t tell me where your priorities are. Show me where you spend your money and I’ll tell you what they are. –James W. Frick

  • Consistently Inspired

    Hello Honeybees,
    Happy New Year!!
    Every January I select a word here that helps me to set the expectation for the new year. 2018’s word was FLOURISH. And in some aspects of my life I did just that. I became more confident & comfortable in my skin. I began to appreciate ME more. I also grew my social media presence being authentically me. My faith walk also flourished in 2018. I spent more time studying the word and actually being present in church.
    This year I decided on two words. My words for 2019 are INSPIRE & CONSISTENT.
    I want to inspire others in whatever way possible. I want my life to be an inspiration. I want everything that I do to have a positive affect on those around me. Not that my life is perfect because it’s far from it but we can all be an inspiration to others.
    Some ways that I hope to inspire:
    • I want to show others that being 50 plus is not a time for slowing down but a time to ramp up life. It’s a time to experience what I call ageless living.
    • For me it’s time for more life experiences and less being so cautious.
    • I want my relationship with my almost adult children to start growing into a very slow & steady friendship. Slow & steady because I’m still momma & I’m not your little friend.
    Consistent is the word for my creative & spiritual life. I’ve been blogging for a while but I’ve not been truly consistent. I want to change that in 2019. In order to truly grow my brand I have to be consistent in creating the best content possible.
    As for my spiritual walk, I want to read the Bible in a year & complete the Purpose Driven Life 30 day journal. I want to be more consistent in attending church. That means going even when I have every “real” excuse in the book. I can’t expect God to show up for me when I don’t show up for him.
    So Honeybees, there you have it. Inspire & Consistent! Words to live by for 2019. I ask you to hold me accountable. When you see me slacking PLEASE drop me a text,email or dm to help me get back on track.
    Here’s to a happy & prosperous 2019
    Top: Target, Pants: Banana Republic (thrifted), Vest: Thrifted, Shoes: Bandolino (TJmaxx), Necklace: Target, Purse: Thrifted
    Beewisdom- Be not afraid of growing slowly, be only afraid of standing still- Chinese Proverb