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  • Grateful For My Journey

    Hello Honeybees,

    Since my last post I have officially left my 40’s! What a great journey this has been. As look back over my first 50 years I think all of the things that I wanted to accomplish in my life. I think about where I thought I would be at this stage in my life versus the reality. Things did not always turn out the way that I wanted them to but I am yet grateful for where I am.

    I wanted to be married with one child, preferably a daughter. I wanted to comb hair, take her to ballet class, go shopping & have mother-daughter time.

    I did get married but I also got divorced. I did have children but I have two boys who could care less about hair, ballet or shopping. But at least one of them likes to spend quality time with me. For now!

    I wanted a fancy high powered high paying career and travel the world on my business account.

    I did work in corporate America & had a tiny taste of business travel. Now I work in nonprofit. So much for high powered but I love the feeling for helping and hopefully inspiring women, especially young women.

    So things did not turn out the way that I dreamed but I’m not complaining because there are people who wish they had the life that I am living. When you hear people praying for the things that you take for granted it makes you grateful. It makes you sit down & be humble and appreciate what you do have.

    I wake up every day grateful for my life because obviously this is the path that God has allowed me to travel and who am I to argue with Him? There have been many bumps & bruises and yes I have the scars to go with them but there have also been more victories. It’s the victories that I focus on. It’s the victories that keep me moving towards the next victory.

    I count this blog as part of my victories. It hasn’t always been easy, especially when you are uprooting not only your life but that of your children. The dedication to writing has not always been a top priority. I have fallen down many times with the blog but eventually I get back up and start again. I am thankful for you as read this. I am thankful to you for reading this.

    Life may not be what we dreamed but if you are able to read this be grateful for your journey and keep moving forward, bruises and all.

    BelindaBloggingwithbee

    Beewisdom- Stay patient & trust your journey

  • My New Home

    Hello Honeybees,

    In my last post I shared that things at the honey pot were busy….well things have not slowed down AT ALL.  In fact the pace has picked up. The month of June has been and continues to be crazy busy for me & my family.  The biggest thing this month is that we moved. Yes I have a new hive. After years of being a homeowner I gave it up. I know it sounds crazy but it’s the right move for me. This blog post by photog & blogger Michael Butler sums it up quite nice. http://www.one901.com/one901/2017/4/21/10-reasons-i-dont-own-a-home 

     

    My ex husband and I purchased our house three years into our marriage.  We wanted our future children to have the space to grow, run and play.  Now that I have been divorced for almost 9 years the upkeep on a house by myself was more than I wanted to continue to handle.  I was over it.  As my sons got older I knew that I was ready to move on. Anyone close to me knows that my plan was to move to an apartment in the Downtown, Midtown area after my oldest son graduated from high school.  Well, when you tell the universe your dreams it rises up to meet you. And rise up it did.  I didn’t know the how, why or where but I knew that I had to take the first step. I started the process in October of 2016 and in June 2017 I moved into my new space in Crosstown. You know that part of town between Midtown & Downtown.  See how things work out!

    Yes, I gave up space but to me it was a worth the trade. As I was packing my closet I realized that I have way too much “stuff”.  I already knew this but now I REALLY know it. I did a purge before I stated packing but that still was not enough so I will purge again. My goal is get all of my clothes, shoes, coats etc into one closet. This move is forcing me to live with less.  It can be done and I will do it. I’m putting that into the universe.

    Outside of the big move this month my oldest has New Student Orientation at University of Memphis and a week of Frosh Camp. My youngest spent the first week of June at Engineering Camp at Missouri S&T. I spent 20 hours on the road that week plus moving. Whew…this honeybee is TIRED! But I’m glad to be in my new home. We are still unpacking and getting organized. I’ll do a post later once we have everything put together.

    To say that I am looking forward to some rest in July is an understatement. Oh yeah…there a few other things that I put into the universe that will happen in July so stay tuned.  #FollowMeInto50

    Belinda Bloggingwithbee

    Beewisdom – Own less, Live More -anonymous

  • Busy Making Honey

    Hello Honeybees,

    It’s been a busy time around the honey pot. This month has brought a couple of opportunities for me to step outside my comfort zone and one next chapter life event for my oldest son.

    Since losing my mom, Mother’s Day has always been bittersweet.  This year I had the opportunity to share the experience by speaking at a butterfly release. The butterfly release gave those who have lost a mother, sister or child, a chance for remembrance and comfort. This was my first time sharing in spoken word about my mom. I’ve shared it in writing but never in front of people. I made it through the speech without crying but I can’t say the same for my support. When I returned to my seat some of my support was in tears. I know it wasn’t all about me, they were crying for their own lost. Between them they lost a mother, a sister and a daughter. I am grateful that they were there for me & I pray that the tears that they shed were cleansing.

    On a lighter note, I participated in a video for Le Bonheur Children’s Hospital. I was asked to share my thoughts as a parent for one of their programs Be Proud! Be Responsible!. Be Proud! Be Responsible! is a teen pregnancy prevention program that collaborates with community centers, schools and churches. This is a subject that is near and dear to my heart. Helping to educate young people on the risk & consequences of being sexual active before they are ready is important work. Being a part of this video was a lot of fun as you can tell. I can’t wait to see the final product.

    Last but certainly not least my oldest son graduated from high school. I vividly remember his birth two days after losing my mom. Now my “baby” is ready to start the next real chapter in his life. I held up really well until the graduates marched in. It was at that moment that I felt the presence of my mom and I was a little chocked up. I made it through the ceremony without crying but the fact that my baby was moving on was emotionally tough.

    The month of May is not over yet & there are still more life changes to come. As my family moves into a new home, my oldest is preparing for a very busy June with a job & University of Memphis Freshman activities, my youngest is preparing for Engineering camp and my job is relocating to new offices. This Honeybee will need a vacay soon & very soon.

    I told you that a lot is happening around the honey pot!! Stay tuned to see what coming next. Oh yeah, in July. The Honeybee turns 50. More to come on that. #FollowMeInto50

    Belinda Bloggingwithbee

    Beewisdom- “Things will never be the same, that’s just the way it is” Tupac