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  • Advice To A Younger Honeybee

    Hello Honeybees,

    If you follow me on IG you know that I attended Karleen Roy’s inaugural Owning The Block event. I enjoyed seeing Memphis come together to support one of its own. The guest for the event was Myleik Teele. SN: Myleik has been on my vision board for a few years & I got to meet her & of course take a picture.

    During the event Karleen asked Myleik what advice she would to her 20 year old self. It got me to thinking about what I would tell my 20 year old self. Before my 20’s were over I was a married college graduate working in corporate America.

    If there were some words of wisdom that I would give to a younger Honeybee it would start with this:

    Although you took the long route to graduation you did it. Don’t hold on to the fact that it took you longer, celebrate the joy that you finished. In taking that long route in college keep going and get that Masters degree. Don’t let 20 years go by.

    Live on your own before you get married. You went from your mother to your husband. You needed the time on your own to mature just a little bit more. You needed the time to learn to stand on your own two feet.

    Travel, go see the world! I mean the WORLD! Leave the USA and enjoy yourself.

    Save, Save, Save and Save some more. Yes you were wise to get in your 401k in your 20’s but you need to save a little more on the side. You need to get in the habit of saving.

    Embrace that “skinny” women that you are and don’t listen to the haters. You look good just the way you are. One day you’ll wish that you were still trying to gain weight. Get in the habit of exercising so that it becomes a way of life.

    Finally, GO FOR IT!!! You wanted to work in corporate communications but when you had the opportunity to meet with the bank president one on one you didn’t capitalize on it because you didn’t know how. Find a mentor, they could’ve helped you navigate this better.

    I’m thankful for the lessons that I learned in my 20’s because they helped to shape the future me and I actually did LEARN something.

    One day I’ll share what I would tell my 30 year old self because those years were truly pivotal.

    What advice would you give your 20 year old self? Leave me a comment below.

    Beewisdom- Remember yourself as a little girl, she is counting on you to protect her.

     

  • I Messed Up

    Hello Honeybees,

    Saturday I was a plus one for Audacity Fest 2019. My blogger boo @mocha_divas had a press pass for the fest and invited me to join her. I agreed to go without doing my due diligence on the event. That was a big mistake on my part. Y’all I messed up. Big time!

    The Audacity Fest is a festival that celebrates black travel and the fact that it was in Memphis was a pretty big deal. Seeing so many people of color come together to share their experiences & best practices was simply beautiful. There were sessions that catered to everything from culinary travel, adventure travel and luxury travel. Of course the highlight for me was budget travel. The festival was 3 days in various locations around the city. They showed Memphis a lot of love.

    I finally got a passport this year and started a savings account using my digit app for some international travel for next year. So I’m already in a travel mood. Had I been better prepared for Audacity Fest I would’ve been more selective in choosing which sessions to attend & being better prepared for retaining the information.

    Thanks to the power of Instagram I was able to see what I missed. My lesson learned here was to be knowledgeable about events before I attend them, even if I’m not obligated to post about them. I missed out on some great opportunities and possible connections because I didn’t do my homework.

    Next years Audacity Fest will be in New York. Maybe just maybe I’ll be able to attend on a budget using some of the information that I learned.

    Beewisdom- Adventure is worthwhile – Aesop

     

  • Forgive Yourself

    Hello Honeybees,

    We are all a work in progress. No one has it all together no matter what their Instagram feed or Facebook page says. I know that I am definitely a serious work in progress. I’m working on me! One of the major things that I am working on is forgiving myself.

    The weird thing is that I will forgive, not necessarily forget, a person that has done me wrong. But when it comes to me forgiving me that’s where I have a block. I hold myself to a much higher standard than I do other people because I can only control me & my actions.

    I’ve made some huge mistakes in my past that I am still trying to forgive myself for. I have asked God for forgiveness & I believe that He has forgiven me, so why am I still holding on? The holding on is keeping me from moving forward. I need to leave all of that baggage in the past where it belongs. Y’all that stuff is heavy, too heavy for me to keep carrying. It takes up to much mental & emotional space. I need that space to enjoy my NOW.

    So as you are reading this know that I am one gigantic step closer to forgiving myself, to letting the past go and moving forward. From this day forward I will no longer entertain what I use to do. I will only entertain what I do now and in the future. I’m leaving the past where it belongs….in the past. I forgive ME!

    What past mistake are you holding on to? What’s stopping you from letting them go?

    Beewisdom-“Never forget that to forgive yourself is to release trapped energy that could be doing good work in the world.” -D. Patrick Miller

     

    Photos: Desiree @mocha_divas