The Honeybee's Lifestyle

Category: GROWING UP BEE

Advice from my mother & father

  • Advice To A Younger Honeybee

    Hello Honeybees,

    If you follow me on IG you know that I attended Karleen Roy’s inaugural Owning The Block event. I enjoyed seeing Memphis come together to support one of its own. The guest for the event was Myleik Teele. SN: Myleik has been on my vision board for a few years & I got to meet her & of course take a picture.

    During the event Karleen asked Myleik what advice she would to her 20 year old self. It got me to thinking about what I would tell my 20 year old self. Before my 20’s were over I was a married college graduate working in corporate America.

    If there were some words of wisdom that I would give to a younger Honeybee it would start with this:

    Although you took the long route to graduation you did it. Don’t hold on to the fact that it took you longer, celebrate the joy that you finished. In taking that long route in college keep going and get that Masters degree. Don’t let 20 years go by.

    Live on your own before you get married. You went from your mother to your husband. You needed the time on your own to mature just a little bit more. You needed the time to learn to stand on your own two feet.

    Travel, go see the world! I mean the WORLD! Leave the USA and enjoy yourself.

    Save, Save, Save and Save some more. Yes you were wise to get in your 401k in your 20’s but you need to save a little more on the side. You need to get in the habit of saving.

    Embrace that “skinny” women that you are and don’t listen to the haters. You look good just the way you are. One day you’ll wish that you were still trying to gain weight. Get in the habit of exercising so that it becomes a way of life.

    Finally, GO FOR IT!!! You wanted to work in corporate communications but when you had the opportunity to meet with the bank president one on one you didn’t capitalize on it because you didn’t know how. Find a mentor, they could’ve helped you navigate this better.

    I’m thankful for the lessons that I learned in my 20’s because they helped to shape the future me and I actually did LEARN something.

    One day I’ll share what I would tell my 30 year old self because those years were truly pivotal.

    What advice would you give your 20 year old self? Leave me a comment below.

    Beewisdom- Remember yourself as a little girl, she is counting on you to protect her.

     

  • Birthday Lessons

    Hello Honeybees, 

    I’ve had 52 wonderful trips around the sun and it stands to reason that I have learned some valuable lessons. So to celebrate my birthday I am sharing some lessons that have helped to shape me.

    • People are fine with you as long as you stay in the place that makes them comfortable. When you step outside of the comfort zone that they have for you, they say that you are changing and they have a hard time handling it. But that’s the time that you know that you are growing. That’s the time when you should grow faster and stronger. Don’t ever let someone dictate your growth. If they can’t handle your growth then they don’t have your best interest at heart. Don’t ever stop growing no matter what.

     

    • Privilege is a powerful drug. Be sure not to overdose.

     

    • People will always have the right solution to the problem until it’s their problem to solve. Somethings are easier said than done.

     

    • When people push you in a negative way…stand up and push back. Don’t let people run over you, you deserve better than that, hell you are better than that.

     

    • Don’t miss this one… the Donald Trumps of this world won’t always look or act like him. Some exhibit the same tendencies they are just smoother with it.

    • You are never too old to start over. Don’t live in a space of fear. Do what makes your spirit happy & your soul sing.

     

    • You have a special power, embrace it, use it. Believe in yourself & don’t let anyone talk you out of it. Get out of your own head.

     

    • You can be your biggest cheerleader or your biggest distraction, it’s up to you.

     

    • If you’ve never driven a car you can’t teach me how to drive. If you’ve never turned on a stove you can’t teach me how to bake. Watch who you take advice from & watch who you follow.

     

    • When people throw you under the bus don’t give them the opportunity to back up over you.

    • You are a beacon of hope for someone, share your story, God gave it to you for a reason.

     

    • Go to therapy, not because it’s the “in”thing to do but because we all have stuff to deal with.

     

    • Don’t live in a mindset of bare minimum, live in a mindset of abundance.

     

    • We can’t help getting older but we don’t have to get old.

    • Don’t let one scene takeover the story of your whole life.

     

    • People interpret what you say based on their experience.

    Last but certainly not least….

    • Protect your melanin, wear sunscreen.

    I hope that you have enjoyed these lessons. I look forward to sharing more lessons next year. Meet me here July 16, 2020!

     

    Beewisdom-Mistakes are made, lessons are learned- Kushandwizdom

  • Daddy Lessons

    Hello Honeybees,

    My daddy Alabama, momma …..

    okay that’s it because my momma was born right here in Memphis,Tennessee and we ain’t nowhere near creole but Chicago brought them together so I don’t know what that makes me……Lol!!!

    Last month for Mother’s Day I shared a lesson that my mom taught me so for Fathers Day I’m sharing a lesson that my father taught me. My dad died when he was only 32 years old and I was 10. But in those 10 years he taught me some very valuable and life affirming lessons. The time that we had together holds an extremely special place in my heart.

    One of the most important lessons that my dad taught me was the value of an education. I promised my dad that I would go to college and earn my degree. I don’t know why that lesson stuck with me, part of it could be that he promised me a car if I went to college. Even though I knew that my mom couldn’t afford to buy me a car I knew that I was going to keep my promise. It was too important not to, so off to college I went. It wasn’t easy and I took longer than 4 years but I did it and made both of my parents proud. Together we made that promise a reality.

    My dad wanted a better educational future for me compared to his. I never truly understood just how proud my dad would’ve been of me until my own children started graduating. I too want my sons to have better than I did. Just like I had to find my way my oldest is finding his way and just like my parents I will be his support to help him navigate this crazy world. My youngest, who is headed to Xavier University in New Orleans, once told me that he wanted to earn his PhD because it’s better than my MBA. All that I have to say to that is “Go Get It” but I’m not promising a car.

    As we celebrate this Father’s Day, let us remember the lessons that our father’s taught us. If your dad is still alive make sure you tell him thank you for those lessons. If your dad, like mine, is no longer here on earth, whisper a prayer of thanks.  He’ll receive it.

    Happy Father’s Day!

     

    Beewisdom- “A good father will leave his imprint on his daughter for the rest of her life.” – Dr. James Dobson