The Honeybee's Lifestyle

Tag: Empowerment

  • Apples & Oranges

    Hello Honeybees,

    In my March lessons learned post I talked about people not being who they POST to be. I received a lot of positive feedback from that lesson. People understand that sentiment. I’ve heard people say that they don’t follow certain people because it makes them feel “unhappy” about their own lives. To that I say if it makes you that unhappy then it is absolutely in your best interest to not follow. But I also say that you should not compare your apples to their oranges

    Some will share the good & the not so good, while others will only share the good. If you are only seeing the good then you by into the “they have the perfect life ” but come on now…we all know that no one has a perfect life.

    Their apple tree is not always bearing fruit. Just like your orange tree is not always bearing oranges. There is always a harvest time.  There is always a time where you must pick the fruit to make room for the next.  It’s that time between the picking season & the next harvest that people don’t share.

    Here are 3 ways to help you move past comparing your apples to other peoples oranges:

    1. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

    No matter where you are in your life you have something to be grateful for. You may not have the million dollar house or the fancy car or the smartest kids but what you do have is a place to sleep, a car that goes from point A to point B and kids that are alive & healthy. Do not discount that. Count it all joy!

    1. BE OK WITH IMPERFECTION

    It’s ok to NOT be perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect person. God made only one YOU. You are unique. Own it and move forward being the best you that you can be.

    1. FOCUS ON YOUR JOURNEY

    Your starting point could be someone’s middle or end. Focus on where you want to go and the steps that you need to take to get there. You lose sight of your goal and precious time comparing your journey to others.

    Have I fallen victim to the comparison game…..of course I have and will again BUT it’s acknowledging it, letting it go and refocusing that is important. I totally use my social media “family” as inspiration, not to keep up but to keep it moving.

    Belinda

    Who are some of your social media inspirational influencers?

    Beewisdom- Don’t compare yourself with anyone else in the world. If you do you are insulting yourself- dailyquotes.com

  • Mindfulness

    Hello Honeybees,

    What does the word MINDFULNESS mean to you?

    Last month I attended a seminar hosted by Methodist Lebonuer Hospital. The guest speaker was ABC news correspondent Dan Harris. Dan talked about the time he had a panic attack on live television. He had become so overwhelmed with life and work that his body, mind and spirit started to betray him. After seeking help for his panic attack Dan learned the importance of meditation. He shares his story in his book 10% Happier. It’s on my nightstand.  I’ll let you know what I think in a later post.

    Most of us don’t reach our breaking point on national t.v. but we all can reach that breaking point. As I begin the next century of my life, yes I said next because I’m claiming 50 more years, I have a lot of moving pieces.  To help me cope with all of these moving parts I have started meditating.  I meditate in the mornings before I say my morning prayers.  I typically meditate before my morning prayers because it helps me to clear out all the thoughts that try to interrupt my quiet time. I can go to the Lord with a calm spirit ready to receive Him in. 

    I use these apps to help me when I want a guided meditation.

    I also like to do yoga. Yoga is a great way for me to relax, engage and exercise.  It is a great release. One of the best things about yoga to me is the community. Practicing yoga with a group brings about a sense of belonging & harmony. If you are looking for a yoga class in Memphis be sure to check out my friend Jackie O!

    Jackie has several different way for you to connect on the mat:

    Yoga 4 Life is a beginner-friendly class that nurtures the spirit, mind & body with a focus on mindful breathing, stretching, body awareness & relaxation. Each Wednesday, 6-7 pm at Co-Work Memphis, 902 Cooper St., 38104. Pay what you can love offering accepted. Sapphire Yogi Jackie O on Facebook for class & event updates. 

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    Mindfulness – Knowing what’s going on in your head and not acting on it

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    Yoga Honeys is a Memphis-based health & wellness group for women of color specializing in beginners yoga with a focus on restoration and healing. Monthly class & event schedule available on the Yoga Honeys Facebook page. Group is by membership request.

    I encourage you to stop and take some time to center yourself. Take some time to connect with your inner you. Try meditating and or yoga. The results can be life changing. Your mind, body & spirit will thank you for it.

    Namaste

    Belinda 

    Beewisdom- “In today’s rush, we all think too much — seek too much — want too much — and forget about the joy of just being.” ~Eckhart Tolle

  • #FollowMeInto50

    Hello Honeybees,

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    Remember when you were little & you thought your parents were old? But as you got older you began to change that tune. Both my parents died at relatively young ages. My dad was 32 & my mom was 54. I was only 10 when my dad passed & I never could understand why everyone kept saying how young he was. I mean really he was my dad AND he was 32….at 10 that seemed old to me. As I got older, got married & had my first son at 32 I truly realized just how young 32 was & is.

    When my mom passed at 54 I had a much better understanding. I knew that 54 was still a young age in which to leave this earth. My mom had just started to live her life. She had just started to do the things that made her happy. She was just starting to spoil herself. She was getting ready to become a grandmother. She realized that all of the hard work & energy that she put into raising me was paying off. She was now “free” to be & do whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted. And guess what…I so enjoyed watching her do it!!

    So today I celebrate on what would’ve been my moms 71st birthday I am embracing my journey in the 50 club! This year I am running into 50 like I ran into 21. I’m excited about what is to come. I have so many dreams & adventures that I am bubbling over with excitement. 50 is the new 50! I’m going to live my life out loud. I’m going to do what makes ME happy. I’m going to enjoy this life that I have been given.

    Honeybee I'm back

    I’m not going to into 50 alone…all of my 1967 babies are coming with me as we sashay into 50.  So I invite you to share your living out loud moments this year with the #FollowMeInto50. Let’s have some fun NOW! Don’t wait until it’s too late because we all know that tomorrow is not promised.

    I plan to give 2017 all that I have & leave not a single thing on the table. Join me and #FollowMeInto50

    Belinda Bee pic

    Beewisdom-Live your life and forget your age