The Honeybee's Lifestyle

Tag: Family

  • Bored In The House

    Bored In The House

    Hello Honeybees,
    Are you bored in the house, cause you’re in the house bored? I know you’ve heard the song and if you are like me you are tired of hearing it, even though it may be absolutely true.
    I asked my sons, one 20 & the other 18 how they were handling the whole shelter in place. My oldest was furloughed from his restaurant job and my youngest had to return home from his freshman year of college. I asked them both the same questions and here is what they shared with me:
    How do you feel about not working/leaving school?
    20 yo: A little worried wondering when/if they will reopen and relieved because I needed a break but since I don’t have vacation time I couldn’t justify taking the time off.
    18 yo: Not happy about having to leave school and NOLA. I miss the end of year plans that I made with my friends. We stay connected thru our group chat and Snapchat
     What do you miss the most?
    20 yo: Working & being outside without worry but relieved that there’s not a lot of people around our building
    18 yo: Being around my friends. Studying with friends, hanging out with friends.

     How do you spend your day?
    20 yo: Playing video games, reading, Netflix, YouTube, writing
    18 yo: Class, laptop, Twitter and video games
    What’s the first thing that you want to do when outside opens up?
    20 yo: Driving lessons (yes he’s an extremely late bloomer)
    18 yo: Go back to school. Hopefully find a summer job if possible
    How are you feeling emotionally?
    20 yo: Doing pretty good, not stressed especially after my unemployment kicked in
    18 yo: Fine. Okay.
    How are you staying mentally grounded?
    20 yo: Playing video games and writing whenever the creative
    mood hits
    18 yo: Talking to people on the internet.

    How has this changed your day to day life?
    20 yo: It hasn’t except for work.
    18 yo: Educational wise I hate online classes because being in class I am very engaged and focused. I get easily distracted at home.
      How has this changed your outlook on your future?
    20 yo: It hasn’t
    18 yo: I’m not surprised by this outcome because of who is the president. Politically & economically nothing will change unless we change the whole governmental system. What we have is not working. I predict a new system for my grandchildren.
    Me:
    As a mother I am watching, talking and asking questions. I hope to guide them through this time with as much ease as I possibly can, all while keeping my sanity in the process. It’s not always easy because they don’t want to always open up. I was very surprised that they even sat down to answer these questions. It’s a good step in the right direction, I’ll take it.

     

    How are your young people doing?

    Beewisdom-“The glory of youth is youthful strength.” – Lailah Gifty Akita

  • I Remember Momma

    I Remember Momma

    Hello Honeybees,
    On Sunday many of us will have the blessing of picking up the phone and calling or Face Timing our Mothers to say thank you & I love you. Some of us will say a prayer to our mothers in heaven. Many will have flowers, cards & gifts delivered. The usual of going to church and taking momma out to eat will look a lot different this year but we will find a way to make her day special. We have to because it’s momma.
    I still have the jewelry box that I gifted my mom one year. It didn’t cost much but she loved it. As a mother myself I get it. It really isn’t the gift but the love and thought behind the gift.  No matter how my sons show appreciation for Mother’s Day it will mean the world to me. They’ll probably cook me breakfast and TRY to make my coffee the way I like it. I probably won’t get a gift until after we can go outside again because they don’t think far enough in advance to hit up Amazon or Target.com.
    The best gift that they can give me this year is to stay inside until it’s safe. The peace of mind that I have knowing that they are safe & healthy is priceless. Are they eating up every thing in the house, yep, but I’m okay with that.
    No matter how you show your mother some love on Sunday I bet your being safe, healthy and happy would be at the top of her list. Oh and don’t just show love on Sunday, momma deserves that love. EVERYDAY.

     

    Happy Mother’s Day!!
    Beewisdom-All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” —Abraham Lincoln

     

  • Daddy Lessons

    Hello Honeybees,

    My daddy Alabama, momma …..

    okay that’s it because my momma was born right here in Memphis,Tennessee and we ain’t nowhere near creole but Chicago brought them together so I don’t know what that makes me……Lol!!!

    Last month for Mother’s Day I shared a lesson that my mom taught me so for Fathers Day I’m sharing a lesson that my father taught me. My dad died when he was only 32 years old and I was 10. But in those 10 years he taught me some very valuable and life affirming lessons. The time that we had together holds an extremely special place in my heart.

    One of the most important lessons that my dad taught me was the value of an education. I promised my dad that I would go to college and earn my degree. I don’t know why that lesson stuck with me, part of it could be that he promised me a car if I went to college. Even though I knew that my mom couldn’t afford to buy me a car I knew that I was going to keep my promise. It was too important not to, so off to college I went. It wasn’t easy and I took longer than 4 years but I did it and made both of my parents proud. Together we made that promise a reality.

    My dad wanted a better educational future for me compared to his. I never truly understood just how proud my dad would’ve been of me until my own children started graduating. I too want my sons to have better than I did. Just like I had to find my way my oldest is finding his way and just like my parents I will be his support to help him navigate this crazy world. My youngest, who is headed to Xavier University in New Orleans, once told me that he wanted to earn his PhD because it’s better than my MBA. All that I have to say to that is “Go Get It” but I’m not promising a car.

    As we celebrate this Father’s Day, let us remember the lessons that our father’s taught us. If your dad is still alive make sure you tell him thank you for those lessons. If your dad, like mine, is no longer here on earth, whisper a prayer of thanks.  He’ll receive it.

    Happy Father’s Day!

     

    Beewisdom- “A good father will leave his imprint on his daughter for the rest of her life.” – Dr. James Dobson