The Honeybee's Lifestyle

Tag: happiness

  • My Favorite Valentine’s Day Memory

    Hello Honeybees,

    Happy Valentine’s Day!

    Valentine’s Day can hold some happy memories and for some people some not so good memories. For me I’m in the middle. I have experienced both the good and the not so good. I can take all the dark chocolate that you can give me, or a cupcake or a single flower. But I don’t need all the pomp and circumstance. Don’t get me wrong I truly believe in love and I love, love. I am always happy to see people in love. Seeing people in love makes my heart happy. I’m sure there will be plenty of proposals taking place today and plenty of babies born in November.

    Some people love the big splash on Vday, you know the one where there are enough balloons to float away, or enough flowers to open a flower shop or the stuffed animal that’s bigger than a small child. When I was younger I enjoyed the love day splash but as I matured I started to love the smaller more intimate gestures.

    My favorite valentine’s day memory involved only two people. Me & Him. Because he knew that I wasn’t big on big displays he prepared an intimate candle light dinner for two. All I had to do was dress up and show up. No restaurant, no waiting, no crowds. He did all the work, prepared all the food, set the table, and had my favorite flower. This was my first candle light dinner experience. It was filled with love, authenticity and appreciation. The fact that someone took the time to make me happy was as special as it gets. Even though the relationship didn’t last, I will always have this memory of what a real, to me, valentine’s day looks and feels like.

    I don’t think that Valentine’s day should make or break the relationship, it should only enhance the relationship. It should be one of the many special days that you celebrate the love that you share in a special way.

    I hope that today you create some beautiful memories of love.   What’s your favorite Valentine’s memory?

     

    Beewisdom- Where there is love, there is life

  • Then Add Tax

    Hello Honeybees,

    Ever see a quote on the interweb that just speaks to your soul?  Well that happened to me.

    This quote struck something deep inside of me & at the time I wasn’t really sure why. We have all seen this quote or something like it plenty of times. But for some reason on this day it was like a punch to the gut and I watched it play out in my life not to long afterwards.

    We spend a lot of time with our self worth being tied up in what we see on social media, where we work and who we hang out with. We place a lot of undo stress on ourselves because we compare ourselves to others. Don’t let your self worth be tied to someone else.

    We get in relationships hoping that the other person will be able to “fix us” or complete us but they can’t.

    Only you can “fix” you.

    We get upset when the people who we thought should support us don’t. We’re ready to throw in the towel. But we must keep pushing with or without their support.

    I posted a picture where I was in a room full of women that I admire & look up to. I questioned why I was in that room. Yall imposter syndrome is real but it didn’t last long. Just as quickly as those thoughts came, they went. Why? Because I realized that I deserved to be there. I questioned my own self worth. Someone thought enough of me to invite me. They saw my value and in the end so did I.

    People can and will doubt you. They will question your value. That’s their problem.

    YOU not realizing your value that’s YOUR problem.

    Seek out ways to understand your value.

    Don’t settle for less than you deserve.

    Beewisdom- know your worth and then add tax

  • It’s Not That Deep

    Hello Honeybees,

    My coworkers hear me say this A Lot 😊 “It’s not that deep”

    I take the same advice in my personal life. I do everything in my power to not let the little things & little people get me off track. It’s not to say that whatever I’m talking about is not important but think about it, how important is it really?

    Will whatever “it” is cause someone harm? Will a life be forever changed in a negative way because I’m stressed or worried about whatever “it” is? If I’m late for a meeting will the world stop? I don’t think so. If I can’t complete something right then, are there dire consequences? I doubt it. Especially if you bring it to me last minute. If my son can’t get the Nintendo Switch, I’m not worried about it. He has a nice roof over his head, food to eat & clothes on his back. Getting that game “is not that deep.”

    Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about being responsible as a parent & an employee but what I’m not gonna do is put more pressure on myself for something that can wait or be completed at a later time. My mental & physical health are very important to me. I want to be both a happy parent & a happy employee and adopting the “its not that deep” attitude helps me to maintain that balance.

    Dress- Old Navy clearance, Shoes-!!!!!!!!! ,Purse- Cole Haan      Photos: Kim Thomas

    So the next time you are stressing about something ask yourself “Is it really THAT deep?”

     

    Beewisdom-  If you treat every situation as a life and death matter, you’ll die a lot of times.–Dean Smith