The Honeybee's Lifestyle

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  • Lessons Learned

    Hello Honeybees,

    We are over one month into 2017.  This year I want to keep track of some of the random things that I have learned or relearned.  Sometimes you have to keep learning lessons before they really stick. Here are a few that really stood out in January.

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    Lesson 1

    If can’t go to the party don’t complain when you aren’t invited to the party

    FOMO is real.  I get it.  I too hate missing the party.

    When my boys were younger there were so many things that I had to miss because as a single mother I had to use my babysitters wisely. It would always make me sad when I would see the pictures from events that I missed. Sometimes I would be invited & sometimes not, but what I realized was that if I had been invited I would not have been able to attend anyway.  So why get miffed about not being invited?  I’m in a place now where my children don’t require a babysitter so I get to decide if I want to attend an event or party. As my dear friend Peggy would always say….. “It’s gonna get better B, just hold on the boys will be big enough before you know it” and guess what…she was right.

    Lesson 2

    Sometimes it’s not the title but the person behind the title

    President Barack Obama fist-bumps custodian Lawrence Lipscomb in the Eisenhower Executive Office Building following the opening session of the White House Forum on Jobs and Economic Growth, Dec. 3, 2009. (Official White House Photo by Pete Souza) This official White House photograph is being made available only for publication by news organizations and/or for personal use printing by the subject(s) of the photograph. The photograph may not be manipulated in any way and may not be used in commercial or political materials, advertisements, emails, products, promotions that in any way suggests approval or endorsement of the President, the First Family, or the White House.
    President Barack Obama fist-bumps custodian Lawrence Lipscomb in the Eisenhower Executive Office Building following the opening session of the White House Forum on Jobs and Economic Growth, Dec. 3, 2009. (Official White House Photo by Pete Souza)

    Everyone has a job title but what you make of that title is on you.  It doesn’t matter if your title is “intern” or “CEO” it’s the work that YOU put in that makes the difference. People will see the work that you do & will in turn treat you as such.  Carry yourself like a CEO and you will be treated like a CEO, no matter your title.  If you are the type of person that treats people differently according to their title then the problem might be you.

    Lesson 3

    Slow down & listen for Gods directions

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    I have never been more in tune with Gods voice than I am right now.  I have finally learned that God doesn’t speak in some BIG BOOMING voice from the sky.  He speaks in a still quiet voice.  It’s up to me to listen. Yes, it takes time to learn this.  Believe me it didn’t happen overnight, it was a process. I had to learn the hard way. When I would do something that God told me not to do I would always wonder “what if I had listened”.  Trust, when you get tired of the bumps & bruises YOU WILL LISTEN.

    I can only imagine what the month of February has to offer.

    What lessons have you learned so far this year?

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    Beewisdom- No regrets in life, just lessons learned

  • Are You Playing Chess or Checkers?

    Hello Honeybees,

    Coming to Memphis as a child for my summer vacations holds many great memories for me. My cousins & I would have so much fun. It was during those vacations that my uncles taught us how to play checkers. It wasn’t a hard game to learn and only required a little strategy.  Collecting your opponents checkers to get to the other side so that your opponent could “king you”. All checkers carry the same weight until they reach the other side. Checkers is a relatively quick game. You could easily play a game while waiting on your table at Cracker Barrel.     You know you’ve done it!!

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    Now Chess is on another level. Chess requires a lot of strategy and not all pieces are created equal. Chess is game that takes time, patients & skill. Chess players in general think 5 moves ahead while checkers is played in the moment.

    So why am I talking about Chess & Checkers? Glad you asked…

    These games got me to thinking about my goals and the action or inaction behind them.

    Am I playing Chess or Checkers?

    If I don’t have any action steps to help me reach my goals, I say its checkers.  Once I put action steps in place AND act on them….THEN I move into a game of Chess.

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    Which game are you playing?

    Planning ahead means making an investment and commitment in your future. Without planning you are letting life happen to you. You are playing checkers.

    We must be strategic in planning. We must plan 5 steps ahead.

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    Today I challenge you to a game of Chess!!

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    Beewisdom- Move in silence, only speak when it’s time to say CHECKMATE. Instagram UpscaleLuxury

  • I’ve Got The Blues

    Hello Honeybees,

    I think….  No, I know that I am having a bout of the winter blues. 

    Yes, there is such a thing as the winter blues. Even though it’s not officially winter… it’s dark AND cold…. So to my body It’s Winter!

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    Two weeks ago I was so full of energy. So much so that I attended 3, YES 3, events in one week. For those that know me, you know that me getting out of the house 3 nights in a row is unheard of. But since then I haven’t had the energy to go anywhere or do anything extra. It’s work & home.

    There is a medical term for the winter blues.  It’s called SAD or Seasonal Affective Disorder. Technically the Winter Blues is a mild form of SAD.  The good thing is that I recognize that something is wrong and I can take the needed steps to get back on track. I’m going to deal with this head on. 

    Some symptoms of the winter blues include: Significant, lasting, downturn of mood, less energy, fatigue, craving for carbs (potatoes are my friend), less interest in being around other people, less interest in activities that you use to like. What makes the winter blues different than SAD is that these feelings go away in the Spring and Summer.  Between 10-20% of Americans may suffer from mild symptoms associated with the winter blues. SAD has been linked to a biochemical imbalance brought on by the shortening of daylight hours and a lack of sunlight in winter. 

    So now what?  How do I get over the winter blues?

    • Expose yourself to light
    • Keep a regular routine/schedule
    • Have a regular pattern of sleep; get enough sleep
    • Exercise regularly
    • Do fun things
    • Eat in a healthy way; avoid overeating

    https://www1.villanova.edu/villanova/studentlife/counselingcenter/infosheets/winterblues.html

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    I am determined to NOT let the winter blues get the best of me. I’m going to get out this weekend to hang with some blogger friends and set my goals for 2017.  I AM READY FOR SPRING!!

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    How do you deal with the winter blues?

    Beewisdom- Keep calm and pretend you are on the beach