The Honeybee's Lifestyle

Tag: Purpose

  • Advice To A Younger Honeybee

    Hello Honeybees,

    If you follow me on IG you know that I attended Karleen Roy’s inaugural Owning The Block event. I enjoyed seeing Memphis come together to support one of its own. The guest for the event was Myleik Teele. SN: Myleik has been on my vision board for a few years & I got to meet her & of course take a picture.

    During the event Karleen asked Myleik what advice she would to her 20 year old self. It got me to thinking about what I would tell my 20 year old self. Before my 20’s were over I was a married college graduate working in corporate America.

    If there were some words of wisdom that I would give to a younger Honeybee it would start with this:

    Although you took the long route to graduation you did it. Don’t hold on to the fact that it took you longer, celebrate the joy that you finished. In taking that long route in college keep going and get that Masters degree. Don’t let 20 years go by.

    Live on your own before you get married. You went from your mother to your husband. You needed the time on your own to mature just a little bit more. You needed the time to learn to stand on your own two feet.

    Travel, go see the world! I mean the WORLD! Leave the USA and enjoy yourself.

    Save, Save, Save and Save some more. Yes you were wise to get in your 401k in your 20’s but you need to save a little more on the side. You need to get in the habit of saving.

    Embrace that “skinny” women that you are and don’t listen to the haters. You look good just the way you are. One day you’ll wish that you were still trying to gain weight. Get in the habit of exercising so that it becomes a way of life.

    Finally, GO FOR IT!!! You wanted to work in corporate communications but when you had the opportunity to meet with the bank president one on one you didn’t capitalize on it because you didn’t know how. Find a mentor, they could’ve helped you navigate this better.

    I’m thankful for the lessons that I learned in my 20’s because they helped to shape the future me and I actually did LEARN something.

    One day I’ll share what I would tell my 30 year old self because those years were truly pivotal.

    What advice would you give your 20 year old self? Leave me a comment below.

    Beewisdom- Remember yourself as a little girl, she is counting on you to protect her.

     

  • Position Yourself

    Hello Honeybees,

    Recently I was listening to Soledad O’Brien speak on a podcast about her leaving CNN. She spoke about how they never really “fired” her but they offered her a different position that she felt was not a good fit for her. To her credit she was able to walk away from CNN because she had financially positioned herself to do so. While working at CNN she was frugal with her money so that she was able to make better decisions based on what she wanted to do vs. what she had to do.

    We’ve all been there. And there is being somewhere because you feel like you have to. Being in a relationship because you feel like you have to. If I leave this relationship then I’ll be alone. If I leave this job then how will I survive? Because let’s face it, we all have bills to pay.

    Positioning yourself means giving yourself options. It’s a very helpless feeling knowing that other people literally hold your destiny in their hands. Hopefully they will have your best interest at heart but then again they may not. It’s a crap shoot.

    So how do you position yourself?

    Financially- living below your means. Have a nest egg so that if you need to make a decision you are making it from a point of substance and not survival.

    Skills- work on improving your skill set so that you have more to offer. If you only know how to do one thing, then one thing is all that you can do.

    Find your side hustle- this goes along with your finances AND improving your skills. That side hustle can help you to save. That side hustle can be your additional skill. This combination can be life saving.

    Network- get to know people outside of your circle, that includes having a mentor. People who know you & your worth. People who can and will advocate for you, even when you are NOT in the room.

    I encourage you to position yourself so that when you are ready to move, you can…..just like that!

    What part of your life needs a position change?

    Beewisdom-“Proper positive positioning is the key to experiencing miracles.” Edmond Mbiaka

     

    Photos by kaughtbykaete.com 

  • Birthday Lessons

    Hello Honeybees, 

    I’ve had 52 wonderful trips around the sun and it stands to reason that I have learned some valuable lessons. So to celebrate my birthday I am sharing some lessons that have helped to shape me.

    • People are fine with you as long as you stay in the place that makes them comfortable. When you step outside of the comfort zone that they have for you, they say that you are changing and they have a hard time handling it. But that’s the time that you know that you are growing. That’s the time when you should grow faster and stronger. Don’t ever let someone dictate your growth. If they can’t handle your growth then they don’t have your best interest at heart. Don’t ever stop growing no matter what.

     

    • Privilege is a powerful drug. Be sure not to overdose.

     

    • People will always have the right solution to the problem until it’s their problem to solve. Somethings are easier said than done.

     

    • When people push you in a negative way…stand up and push back. Don’t let people run over you, you deserve better than that, hell you are better than that.

     

    • Don’t miss this one… the Donald Trumps of this world won’t always look or act like him. Some exhibit the same tendencies they are just smoother with it.

    • You are never too old to start over. Don’t live in a space of fear. Do what makes your spirit happy & your soul sing.

     

    • You have a special power, embrace it, use it. Believe in yourself & don’t let anyone talk you out of it. Get out of your own head.

     

    • You can be your biggest cheerleader or your biggest distraction, it’s up to you.

     

    • If you’ve never driven a car you can’t teach me how to drive. If you’ve never turned on a stove you can’t teach me how to bake. Watch who you take advice from & watch who you follow.

     

    • When people throw you under the bus don’t give them the opportunity to back up over you.

    • You are a beacon of hope for someone, share your story, God gave it to you for a reason.

     

    • Go to therapy, not because it’s the “in”thing to do but because we all have stuff to deal with.

     

    • Don’t live in a mindset of bare minimum, live in a mindset of abundance.

     

    • We can’t help getting older but we don’t have to get old.

    • Don’t let one scene takeover the story of your whole life.

     

    • People interpret what you say based on their experience.

    Last but certainly not least….

    • Protect your melanin, wear sunscreen.

    I hope that you have enjoyed these lessons. I look forward to sharing more lessons next year. Meet me here July 16, 2020!

     

    Beewisdom-Mistakes are made, lessons are learned- Kushandwizdom