The Honeybee's Lifestyle

Tag: Purpose

  • Grateful For My Journey

    Hello Honeybees,

    Since my last post I have officially left my 40’s! What a great journey this has been. As look back over my first 50 years I think all of the things that I wanted to accomplish in my life. I think about where I thought I would be at this stage in my life versus the reality. Things did not always turn out the way that I wanted them to but I am yet grateful for where I am.

    I wanted to be married with one child, preferably a daughter. I wanted to comb hair, take her to ballet class, go shopping & have mother-daughter time.

    I did get married but I also got divorced. I did have children but I have two boys who could care less about hair, ballet or shopping. But at least one of them likes to spend quality time with me. For now!

    I wanted a fancy high powered high paying career and travel the world on my business account.

    I did work in corporate America & had a tiny taste of business travel. Now I work in nonprofit. So much for high powered but I love the feeling for helping and hopefully inspiring women, especially young women.

    So things did not turn out the way that I dreamed but I’m not complaining because there are people who wish they had the life that I am living. When you hear people praying for the things that you take for granted it makes you grateful. It makes you sit down & be humble and appreciate what you do have.

    I wake up every day grateful for my life because obviously this is the path that God has allowed me to travel and who am I to argue with Him? There have been many bumps & bruises and yes I have the scars to go with them but there have also been more victories. It’s the victories that I focus on. It’s the victories that keep me moving towards the next victory.

    I count this blog as part of my victories. It hasn’t always been easy, especially when you are uprooting not only your life but that of your children. The dedication to writing has not always been a top priority. I have fallen down many times with the blog but eventually I get back up and start again. I am thankful for you as read this. I am thankful to you for reading this.

    Life may not be what we dreamed but if you are able to read this be grateful for your journey and keep moving forward, bruises and all.

    BelindaBloggingwithbee

    Beewisdom- Stay patient & trust your journey

  • Busy Making Honey

    Hello Honeybees,

    It’s been a busy time around the honey pot. This month has brought a couple of opportunities for me to step outside my comfort zone and one next chapter life event for my oldest son.

    Since losing my mom, Mother’s Day has always been bittersweet.  This year I had the opportunity to share the experience by speaking at a butterfly release. The butterfly release gave those who have lost a mother, sister or child, a chance for remembrance and comfort. This was my first time sharing in spoken word about my mom. I’ve shared it in writing but never in front of people. I made it through the speech without crying but I can’t say the same for my support. When I returned to my seat some of my support was in tears. I know it wasn’t all about me, they were crying for their own lost. Between them they lost a mother, a sister and a daughter. I am grateful that they were there for me & I pray that the tears that they shed were cleansing.

    On a lighter note, I participated in a video for Le Bonheur Children’s Hospital. I was asked to share my thoughts as a parent for one of their programs Be Proud! Be Responsible!. Be Proud! Be Responsible! is a teen pregnancy prevention program that collaborates with community centers, schools and churches. This is a subject that is near and dear to my heart. Helping to educate young people on the risk & consequences of being sexual active before they are ready is important work. Being a part of this video was a lot of fun as you can tell. I can’t wait to see the final product.

    Last but certainly not least my oldest son graduated from high school. I vividly remember his birth two days after losing my mom. Now my “baby” is ready to start the next real chapter in his life. I held up really well until the graduates marched in. It was at that moment that I felt the presence of my mom and I was a little chocked up. I made it through the ceremony without crying but the fact that my baby was moving on was emotionally tough.

    The month of May is not over yet & there are still more life changes to come. As my family moves into a new home, my oldest is preparing for a very busy June with a job & University of Memphis Freshman activities, my youngest is preparing for Engineering camp and my job is relocating to new offices. This Honeybee will need a vacay soon & very soon.

    I told you that a lot is happening around the honey pot!! Stay tuned to see what coming next. Oh yeah, in July. The Honeybee turns 50. More to come on that. #FollowMeInto50

    Belinda Bloggingwithbee

    Beewisdom- “Things will never be the same, that’s just the way it is” Tupac

  • Apples & Oranges

    Hello Honeybees,

    In my March lessons learned post I talked about people not being who they POST to be. I received a lot of positive feedback from that lesson. People understand that sentiment. I’ve heard people say that they don’t follow certain people because it makes them feel “unhappy” about their own lives. To that I say if it makes you that unhappy then it is absolutely in your best interest to not follow. But I also say that you should not compare your apples to their oranges

    Some will share the good & the not so good, while others will only share the good. If you are only seeing the good then you by into the “they have the perfect life ” but come on now…we all know that no one has a perfect life.

    Their apple tree is not always bearing fruit. Just like your orange tree is not always bearing oranges. There is always a harvest time.  There is always a time where you must pick the fruit to make room for the next.  It’s that time between the picking season & the next harvest that people don’t share.

    Here are 3 ways to help you move past comparing your apples to other peoples oranges:

    1. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

    No matter where you are in your life you have something to be grateful for. You may not have the million dollar house or the fancy car or the smartest kids but what you do have is a place to sleep, a car that goes from point A to point B and kids that are alive & healthy. Do not discount that. Count it all joy!

    1. BE OK WITH IMPERFECTION

    It’s ok to NOT be perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect person. God made only one YOU. You are unique. Own it and move forward being the best you that you can be.

    1. FOCUS ON YOUR JOURNEY

    Your starting point could be someone’s middle or end. Focus on where you want to go and the steps that you need to take to get there. You lose sight of your goal and precious time comparing your journey to others.

    Have I fallen victim to the comparison game…..of course I have and will again BUT it’s acknowledging it, letting it go and refocusing that is important. I totally use my social media “family” as inspiration, not to keep up but to keep it moving.

    Belinda

    Who are some of your social media inspirational influencers?

    Beewisdom- Don’t compare yourself with anyone else in the world. If you do you are insulting yourself- dailyquotes.com