The Honeybee's Lifestyle

Tag: Empowerment

  • You Got It Girl!

    You Got It Girl!

    Hello Honeybees,
    Imposter syndrome is real. You would think that at 52 I would be past it but sometimes it still rears it’s ugly head. The good thing about this time is that God sent me encouragement immediately.
    Picture it middle of a pandemic 2020. I am asked to do a Facebook Live by an organization (Beautiful Spirited Women) that I admire about my blogging experience. My first thought was why me? My blog doesn’t have big numbers, there are more qualified people out there that could do this. My second thought was I’ve never done a Facebook Live and these internet streets aint loyal. ALL of THE excuses. But instantly God started sending the encouragement. An on time word from Myleik’s stories & my bible plan verse for the day. I asked God for these types of opportunities and bam here you go.

     

    Then I saw another post from someone offering blogging advice and thought if she can do it so can I. This wasn’t meant as a ding to someone else but it gave me the push to say look at her stepping out there, letting nothing hold her back. It inspired me to just do it.
    I think back to another time when I was asked to speak about blogging and I turned it down because I didn’t feel “worthy”. I even recommended some other people to do it. That moment has stuck with me because I look back at that moment as giving up. Let me just say, that will not happen again. I asked and God answered and I threw it back. Now we all know that’s now how this should work. I should stand tall, especially in answered prayers. It was a lesson learned and one that I won’t forget.

    Hopefully I will be asked to do more things that are outside of my comfort zone and I will accept with courage. Because as my shirt says…. Girl You Got This!

    Beewisdom- You Got It Girl- Chris Brown
    Tshirt – Mess In A Bottle

  • Advice To A Younger Honeybee

    Hello Honeybees,

    If you follow me on IG you know that I attended Karleen Roy’s inaugural Owning The Block event. I enjoyed seeing Memphis come together to support one of its own. The guest for the event was Myleik Teele. SN: Myleik has been on my vision board for a few years & I got to meet her & of course take a picture.

    During the event Karleen asked Myleik what advice she would to her 20 year old self. It got me to thinking about what I would tell my 20 year old self. Before my 20’s were over I was a married college graduate working in corporate America.

    If there were some words of wisdom that I would give to a younger Honeybee it would start with this:

    Although you took the long route to graduation you did it. Don’t hold on to the fact that it took you longer, celebrate the joy that you finished. In taking that long route in college keep going and get that Masters degree. Don’t let 20 years go by.

    Live on your own before you get married. You went from your mother to your husband. You needed the time on your own to mature just a little bit more. You needed the time to learn to stand on your own two feet.

    Travel, go see the world! I mean the WORLD! Leave the USA and enjoy yourself.

    Save, Save, Save and Save some more. Yes you were wise to get in your 401k in your 20’s but you need to save a little more on the side. You need to get in the habit of saving.

    Embrace that “skinny” women that you are and don’t listen to the haters. You look good just the way you are. One day you’ll wish that you were still trying to gain weight. Get in the habit of exercising so that it becomes a way of life.

    Finally, GO FOR IT!!! You wanted to work in corporate communications but when you had the opportunity to meet with the bank president one on one you didn’t capitalize on it because you didn’t know how. Find a mentor, they could’ve helped you navigate this better.

    I’m thankful for the lessons that I learned in my 20’s because they helped to shape the future me and I actually did LEARN something.

    One day I’ll share what I would tell my 30 year old self because those years were truly pivotal.

    What advice would you give your 20 year old self? Leave me a comment below.

    Beewisdom- Remember yourself as a little girl, she is counting on you to protect her.

     

  • Position Yourself

    Hello Honeybees,

    Recently I was listening to Soledad O’Brien speak on a podcast about her leaving CNN. She spoke about how they never really “fired” her but they offered her a different position that she felt was not a good fit for her. To her credit she was able to walk away from CNN because she had financially positioned herself to do so. While working at CNN she was frugal with her money so that she was able to make better decisions based on what she wanted to do vs. what she had to do.

    We’ve all been there. And there is being somewhere because you feel like you have to. Being in a relationship because you feel like you have to. If I leave this relationship then I’ll be alone. If I leave this job then how will I survive? Because let’s face it, we all have bills to pay.

    Positioning yourself means giving yourself options. It’s a very helpless feeling knowing that other people literally hold your destiny in their hands. Hopefully they will have your best interest at heart but then again they may not. It’s a crap shoot.

    So how do you position yourself?

    Financially- living below your means. Have a nest egg so that if you need to make a decision you are making it from a point of substance and not survival.

    Skills- work on improving your skill set so that you have more to offer. If you only know how to do one thing, then one thing is all that you can do.

    Find your side hustle- this goes along with your finances AND improving your skills. That side hustle can help you to save. That side hustle can be your additional skill. This combination can be life saving.

    Network- get to know people outside of your circle, that includes having a mentor. People who know you & your worth. People who can and will advocate for you, even when you are NOT in the room.

    I encourage you to position yourself so that when you are ready to move, you can…..just like that!

    What part of your life needs a position change?

    Beewisdom-“Proper positive positioning is the key to experiencing miracles.” Edmond Mbiaka

     

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