The Honeybee's Lifestyle

Tag: Empowerment

  • Beware of Hole Punchers

    Hello Honeybees,

    We all have people in our lives that will try to steal our joy.  You know the people that will try to punch holes in your dreams or your godly assignment. I’m not talking about the people who will pull your coat tail when you are trying to do something wrong.  I’m talking about the people who will try to discourage you from living your dream, living your best life on your terms.

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    Say you want to buy a new car. The hole puncher will give you 101 reasons why you shouldn’t. “What’s wrong with the car you have now?” “How can you afford that?”

    You want to take an overseas trip. They will remind you over & over again about how unstable the world is. You might get stuck “over there” “You sure you want to go alone?”

    You want to quit your job and start your own business. The hole puncher will give you every reason as to why you shouldn’t. “How will you pay your bills?”, ” What about your family”. Yes those are all very valid questions that any real friend will ask but the hole puncher won’t be satisfied when you give them answers. They will keep coming back & keep questioning your decision. They will try to plant that seed of doubt. 

    When God gives you an assignment…. (taps mic….) IT. IS. FOR. YOU. NOT. FOR. THEM. 

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    Get It!! That’s YOUR assignment. It’s for you and no one else. He gave it to you & he will give YOU the resources to handle it.  Not everyone will be on-board with your dream. Who you share your dream with is important. I am very careful with who I let into my vision circle. If I feel that you are going to be a hole puncher then you will find out about my plans after the fact. If you can’t be supportive then I don’t need the negativity.   

    The next time someone tries to punch a hole in your dream…tell them to go punch a hole somewhere else because you are busy living.

    Belinda Bee pic

    Beewisdom- Failure at some point in your life is inevitable, but giving up is unforgivable.                                                                                                                                                        Joe Biden

  • Lessons Learned

    Hello Honeybees,

    We are over one month into 2017.  This year I want to keep track of some of the random things that I have learned or relearned.  Sometimes you have to keep learning lessons before they really stick. Here are a few that really stood out in January.

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    Lesson 1

    If can’t go to the party don’t complain when you aren’t invited to the party

    FOMO is real.  I get it.  I too hate missing the party.

    When my boys were younger there were so many things that I had to miss because as a single mother I had to use my babysitters wisely. It would always make me sad when I would see the pictures from events that I missed. Sometimes I would be invited & sometimes not, but what I realized was that if I had been invited I would not have been able to attend anyway.  So why get miffed about not being invited?  I’m in a place now where my children don’t require a babysitter so I get to decide if I want to attend an event or party. As my dear friend Peggy would always say….. “It’s gonna get better B, just hold on the boys will be big enough before you know it” and guess what…she was right.

    Lesson 2

    Sometimes it’s not the title but the person behind the title

    President Barack Obama fist-bumps custodian Lawrence Lipscomb in the Eisenhower Executive Office Building following the opening session of the White House Forum on Jobs and Economic Growth, Dec. 3, 2009. (Official White House Photo by Pete Souza) This official White House photograph is being made available only for publication by news organizations and/or for personal use printing by the subject(s) of the photograph. The photograph may not be manipulated in any way and may not be used in commercial or political materials, advertisements, emails, products, promotions that in any way suggests approval or endorsement of the President, the First Family, or the White House.
    President Barack Obama fist-bumps custodian Lawrence Lipscomb in the Eisenhower Executive Office Building following the opening session of the White House Forum on Jobs and Economic Growth, Dec. 3, 2009. (Official White House Photo by Pete Souza)

    Everyone has a job title but what you make of that title is on you.  It doesn’t matter if your title is “intern” or “CEO” it’s the work that YOU put in that makes the difference. People will see the work that you do & will in turn treat you as such.  Carry yourself like a CEO and you will be treated like a CEO, no matter your title.  If you are the type of person that treats people differently according to their title then the problem might be you.

    Lesson 3

    Slow down & listen for Gods directions

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    I have never been more in tune with Gods voice than I am right now.  I have finally learned that God doesn’t speak in some BIG BOOMING voice from the sky.  He speaks in a still quiet voice.  It’s up to me to listen. Yes, it takes time to learn this.  Believe me it didn’t happen overnight, it was a process. I had to learn the hard way. When I would do something that God told me not to do I would always wonder “what if I had listened”.  Trust, when you get tired of the bumps & bruises YOU WILL LISTEN.

    I can only imagine what the month of February has to offer.

    What lessons have you learned so far this year?

    Belinda Bee pic

    Beewisdom- No regrets in life, just lessons learned

  • Be Amazing

    Hello Honeybees,

    Sometime last year on one of my thrifting adventures I came across a sweater that spoke to me. Literally!  The sweater said BE AMAZING.  I think I paid maybe $4 for the sweater and I will say that it is the best $4 to ever leave my wallet.  I wear this sweater when I need to encourage myself.  It’s like my power sweater. It’s like striking the Wonder Woman pose in the mirror. It’s my reminder to BE AMAZING.

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    Recently I was giving a presentation to a room full of high school girls. Usually I wear my work polo but on this day for some reason I felt that I needed a little extra encouragement.  So I pulled out my power sweater.

    I was standing at the door as the girls were entering the room. Totally in prep mode, forgetting all about the sweater UNTIL… one of the students read my sweater out loud and smiled. I smiled back letting her know that I heard her.  Another young lady was talking to her friend and said, I want a sweater like that. My response to her… Yes because you are amazing.

    So here I am standing in front of 50 teenage girls and the whole time they got to stare at the words BE AMAZING.

    After leaving the school I ran some errands and in each place someone made a comment about my sweater. People of all races, male & female.  One brother asked me where I got my sweater. I told him that I thrifted it but the look on his face let me know to further explain. So I just said, Old Navy. And no he wasn’t trying to hit on me. He was truly asking like he wanted to find one for his special person.

    Who knew that a $4 sweater would not only encourage me but also those with whom I come in contact? It doesn’t always take a lot to make a difference.  Sometimes all it takes is a $4 sweater that simply says……..BE AMAZING!!!

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    Beewisdom- Be Amazing, I Dare You!!