The party is over, Madri Gras (Fat Tuesday) is done.
Today, Ash Wednesday, marks the start of the Lenten season where we begin the process of sacrifice for 40 days. I grew up in the Catholic Church and attended Catholic school until college, so the Lenten season has always held a special place in my spiritual journey.
Most of the time during Lent I focused on sacrificing something edible. As a kid I would give up candy or sweets which wasn’t a sacrifice because I didn’t really eat candy (that habit started later in life). As I got older I would switch to something that was a little harder like pork or soft drinks. These two things wouldn’t be a sacrifice today. Maturity happens!
At some point I stopped “giving up” things for Lent and I started adding things. I started adding more prayer time in those 40 days, I started making a very conscious effort to be more giving, more loving and to be a better person.
They say it takes 21 days to form a habit. The first year that I added these things during Lent they did become habits. I still try to find more ways to add to my prayer time. I still make a conscious effort to be more giving and to be a better person.
For the 2019 Lenten season I’m going to add and subtract for these 40 days. I’m going to sacrifice a food, bread. Pray my strength. I’m going to re read two books, Purpose Driven Life & When God Winks. Both books make me feel like I’m strengthen my spiritual relationship with God.
I pray that at the end of these 40 days I come out a healthier and more purposeful woman.
What are you sacrificing or adding during this Lenten season?
Beewisdom- “Prayer does not change the purpose of God. But prayer does change the action of God.” — Chuck Smith
Have you heard the song Living My Best Life by Lil Duval? Despite some of the language I love the hook in this song. I’m living my best life, ain’t going back & forth with you “people”. But what does it mean to live your best life? And by whose standards?
To me “living my best life” means different things to different people at different stages in their life.
In your 20’s– it could mean finishing school, trying to figure out what to do with the rest of your life. It could mean hitting the clubs. It could mean traveling the world. It could mean falling in love.
In your 30’s– it could mean getting married, starting a family. Putting some real focus on your career, climbing the corporate ladder. Buying that piece of property. Traveling the world. Starting your own business because you realize that a 9-5 is not for you.
In your 40’s– it could mean realizing that all that time you thought other people’s opinions mattered…well they really didn’t. It could mean having meaningful life experiences versus hitting the clubs. It could mean finally believing that you can live life on your terms.
In your 50’s-it could mean realizing that life is all about YOUR happiness. Your kids are either up & out or on their way out. It’s about creating truly amazing life experiences. It’s about making sure that what you want out of life is still within your reach & you’re still moving towards it. Nothing & no one will stand in your way.
This may not look like your best life at all but that’s the beauty of it all. YOUR best life is what YOU want and what YOU make it. I would love to add more travel, especially international travel to my life. I would love to be in a better place financially. That’s the best life that I am working on for me and it’s never too late to make it happen.
But what I’m not gonna do is compare my best life to yours. I’m not going back & forth with you people. I’m gonna life my best life on my terms. Thanks for being along for the ride.
What is YOUR idea of “living your best life”?
Beewisdom- If you breathin’, you achievin’- Snoop Dogg
Ok, so I am not a Lil Wayne fan but I do love the line… “Real G’s move in silence like the G in lasagna.” I admit that I didn’t know about the whole lasagna reference until my 18 yo son hipped me to it. One day I was sharing what I thought was some motherly advice that went something like this:
Me: “Real G’s move in silence”
Him: “like the g in lasagna”
Me: Looking at him like he cursed.
Him: “What, that’s the rest of that line from a Lil Wayne song”
Me: Lil Wayne? You have got to be kidding me
Him: Nope, it’s in a Lil Wayne song
Me: heads to Google
Also me: people really had a debate about the “G” in lasagna being silent and if the “G” stood for gansta.
Anyway, here is MY point and his I think, EVERYONE doesn’t need to know your every move. Keep some things to yourself. After you have made your move that’s when you let the world know so that we can all celebrate with you. For me when I’m making a Real G move the fewer people that know about it the better. I don’t need any negative energy around me. I will share it with the people that I trust and that I know are in my corner. Positive vibes ONLY!
I know that social media makes it really easy to overshare, says the lady with a blog, however I share the parts of my life that I choose to share at the time that I want to share. It’s not that I’m trying to hide anything but somethings are better left unsaid until they can speak for themselves.
Believe me The Honeybee is planning, strategizing and executing and when the time is right I will share my moves with the world. But until then just know that this G is moving………in silence.
Beewisdom-When you build in silence, they don’t know what to attack- Livelifehappy.com
At the start of the new year a lot of people make the resolution to start a diet, lose weight and join the gym. I didn’t make that resolution but I did start a fast and I did start to watch what I eat and I started to exercise. In part because my blood pressure that use to always trend on the low side was now trending on the high side. Seeing these numbers was the motivation that I needed to make my health a priority. I’ve got way too much life left to live. I’ve got children that still need me, future daughters in law to get to know and future grandchildren to spoil.
There is a history of high blood pressure and stroke in my family so playing around is not an option. I have a membership to the Y that’s in my building so I have no excuse. In November we started a Biggest Looser Challenge at work and money is always a motivator. I probably won’t win but I am so proud of myself that I have continued to stick to my no meat meal plan and at least 3 days of exercise a week maybe more.
My goal is to lose 10 more pounds, maintain my no meat lifestyle and lower my blood pressure without medicine. I know it won’t be easy but fighting for what you want never is.
By the way, I don’t always smile when I’m working out. I’m too busy trying to work up a real sweat.
Beewisdom- Fat last longer than flavor