Growing up my mother always told me to buy myself something out of every paycheck. It didn’t have to be anything expensive or over the top but something. “A tube of lipstick or pair of panties” Her exact words not mine.
Her thought process was that you deserve to reward yourself for all of the hard work you’ve put in for that paycheck. After paying your tithes and obligations you deserve something for you.
For the most part I have listened to that advice. Unfortunately for me that reward usually comes in the form of food. Don’t judge! I say unfortunately because I think that I would feel better if I rewarded myself with something more tangible. Say a new pair of shoes that are on sale or a makeup brush. You get the picture. I look at rewarding myself as a form of self care. It brings me joy and puts me in a good mood, thereby making me a happier person.
I keep my paycheck rewards to under $30. I really try to stay around $20. I like the thrill of finding something that makes me happy but stays within budget. Now if I want a bigger reward I save up for it and sometimes the act of saving can be my reward.
No matter which way I decide to say thank you to myself for making it through I know that my mother is proud of me & smiling down from heaven saying, “She listened” Yes momma I listened and I just bought a pair of shoes on clearance at TJ Maxx for $22.
As I was writing this post I got to thinking about some of the many lessons that my mother taught me and the advice that she gave me. So from time to time I’ll share those stories on the blog. They will live under the Growing Up Bee section. I hope you get as much out of them as I do.
What’s your favorite piece of motherly advice?
Happy Mother’s Day!!
Beewisdom- A mother is a woman who shows you the light when you just see the dark. Grimaldos Robin
One of the ways that I practice self love is by surrounding myself with women who inspire me and lift me up. On Sunday I was fortunate enough to experience self love at its best. Dr. Jamie Hardy is the founder of The Fab Gathering, The Fab Gathering is a safe space to let down your guard and to receive support and tools to elevate your health and your life. This FAB gathering was all about self love.
A little back story. I started following Dr. Jamie after meeting her at a blogger workshop. Shortly after our meeting she hosted a Fab Gathering at Char restaurant but I waited to late to get my ticket. That was not the case this time.
Dr. Jamie, a pharmacist by trade, is on a mission to help women to be fit, FABulous, and fulfilled by giving their food, actions, and beliefs a makeover. She encourages women to live a healthy lifestyle without pills. Yes you read that right, a pharmacist trying to get us off the meds.
The day began with a panel of beautiful black educated women dropping gems on everything from navigating storms to self image and of course saying NO.
Melody Hubbard-Robinson dropped the first gem. During the introductions when most people tell who they are and what they do for a living, Melody said: “My job is….. but my purpose is….” I love that because we are more than our jobs. We all have a purpose and you are blessed if they are the same.
Dr. Kristen Walker let us know that if self care becomes stressful then you aren’t doing it right.
Kim Cox Esq. reminded us that you always have options. Don’t be afraid to take the chance to have joy.
Dr. Audrey Townsel dropped on of the most important gems of all about dealing with other people. When pouring into other people make sure that they can pour back into you.
I told you these ladies were fierce and I received every word of it.
After the panel it was time to hydrate because Dr. Jamie knew that we were gonna need it. Twana Johnson got us up and moving. We did a “quick” 7 minutes of cardio to get our heart rate up. 30 minutes a day is all we need to get us started & to help us stay fit. Twana’s gem was “You can catch someones cold but you can’t catch good health” That my friends is on you.
After getting our groove on we hit the mat, the yoga mat that is. My favorite yogi, Jackie O lead our practice. I am always in a calmer state of mind after yoga with Jackie.
Dr. Jamie then talked to us about the important benefits of journaling and introduced us to her new soon to be released Self Love Kit. Head over to The Fab Gathering website for more details.
As promised we had a healthy and delicious lunch. I was full but not stuffed. A perfect combination.
This was the perfect way to spend part of my Sunday. I was so inspired by all of the women. I am so happy that I had the chance to experience Self Love Day with the Fab Gathering.
Job well done Dr. Jamie.
Beewisdom- If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete. ~ Buddha
What excites you most about life RIGHT NOW? TODAY!
What makes you jump out of bed ready to start the day? What makes you smile when you think about it. Notice I didn’t say who. What sparks joy in your life? Is it a new job, a new car or is it the freedom to do whatever you want whenever you want? It might even be a new workout routine (gotta get that body right & tight)
When I thought about this question in regards to my life the first thing that came to mind was my youngest son and his upcoming graduation and leaving for college. But then I thought, yes that does bring me joy & yes I am more than excited about it BUT that’s more about him than me. That’s more about being a damn good parent (pats self on back AND takes a bow) and my choice to be a parent.
What is happening in MY life that excites ME? Well you are reading it. This blog excites me. Having my own little piece of the internet excites me. Creating content and writing excites me. The fact that you are even reading this excites me. Although I’m still nervous in front of the camera, all of the prep work, finding locations and shooting photos excites me. Learning from other influencers excites me. Watching my brand grow excites me. Shoot, just the thought of me saying hat I have a brand excites me. Planning a trip to a blogger conference excites me. Going to blogger events excites me. See where I’m going with this? Everything about this brand excites me. I sometimes dream about a post, a picture or branding ideas. Yep, it can be that deep. Yes, it is that deep.
Being an entrepreneur is something that I never wanted to be because I understood how much or your blood, sweat and tears went into creating and maintaining a successful business. But as I work on my brand I understand more about how entrepreneurs feel when that dream becomes a reality. I’ll probably always have a regular job because the security of having that steady income is extremely important and comforting to me and yes, I know that no job is guaranteed but so far so good.
You will never make me believe that finding and doing something that makes you happy doesn’t extend your life. I know that it at least makes your time here on earth more enjoyable. I want us all to be happy and one way to do that is to find what excites us and DO IT!!
Beewisdom- Things that excite you are not random. They are connected yo your purpose. Follow them. – ThinkGrowProsper